why does BM do this?
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how come when DH emails a schedule for BM to get the skids, and she agrees to it.. why on earth does she insist on ALWAYS calling or texting to see if she is getting them... and she puts it like "do you still want me to take the kids" (that way she can say, well you have to come here cuz your dad wanted me to take you..then if they have something else they wanted to do he is the bad guy)
but if she isnt going to get them when she says we never hear a word out of her!
why why why cant she just come get them when she says!! why does she always have to call or text??
Seriously, if BM had a child
Seriously, if BM had a child with another man, I would think you were the other stepmom. This is exactly what our BM does. BM will actually ASK for a schedule and then once DH gives it to her, she never sticks to it and calls the night before to see if SS is still coming. WTF???!!!
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
Wingnut ALWAYS has to
Wingnut ALWAYS has to confirm the schedule two or three times. I guess she really does need to though because this past weekend she screwed it up. We "allow" Wingnut to have SD on our weekends when we don't have plans because SD would otherwise only see her 6 days out of the month. This gives her 3 extra days a month (if we aren't busy). But on weekends where it should be our weekend, we keep SD until 10am so dh and sd can make breakfast and eat together. On Wingnut's orignal weekends, the exchange is at 8am. So this past weekend, she was at the exchange point at 8am waiting, and waiting and waiting. Apparently she waited until 8:30 until she realized it was our weekend and that dh wouldn't be there until 10am. She was looking for sympathy over it, but dh simply said "last weekend was your weekend" and left.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
I put a halt to the meeting
I put a halt to the meeting place thing! BM was having DH drive all over the place because she couldnt live in one place for more than a few month, he was even driving 1/2 way to conneticut! when she moved back, an hour from us, the idiot sold her car.. so she was expecting DH do to pick up and drop off when it suited her.. not any schedule..
but now DH has 100% custody, she gets them at times and places they agree.. so sending her the schedule was actually my idea, I need a freaken break from skids.. if it was up to her she would get them once every other month or so.. so its either force them on her, or I am stuck with them 24/7.. (DH works alot).. and I really dont like skids enough to be stuck with them 24/7.. honestly I am a nice person, but I can really only take so much of someone elses kids.. especially when they treat me like crap and take up any ounce of energy or time I have to spend with my bio kids..
Our meeting place (wait til
Our meeting place (wait til you hear this) is 1/2 way between both homes. We live exactly 1.5 miles apart and we meet at the McDonald's in between. How is that for ASSANINE??? It works out though because I don't really want the witch at my house.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
**SingleMotherOf2GreatKids**
**SingleMotherOf2GreatKids**
I would always turn those situations around on bm saying well obviously the schedule for seeing your daughter isn't important to you so obviously seeing your daughter isn't important to you. And with that said, I would be more then happy to keep sd with me. So you can attend to whatever was so important that you allowed it to interfere with your being a mom. Then we just wouldn't show up to drop her off.And after a while sd blamed us for why she didn't see her mom and we told her it was because her mom didn't want to see her and if she did then we would take her over there. And for a while bm would get mad and show up to our house to pick her up or call asking why we didnt show or why we reacted the way we did. But after a while, she just stopped asking to see her at all, so it worked it out for us. For a while anyway... But I will say I never held anything back. If she needed to hear about what a POS she was, I would tell her, in front of bf and bm just say whatever I needed to without yelling or getting angry. Say everything very matter-of-factly and nonchalant and sarcastic. That way I got my point across with bf and sd knowing exactly what was said and that I was strong and confident and could handle anything she threw at me. Plus it pissed her off that she couldn't yell or throw punches because then she would be the one causing a scene.
I actually like when she
I actually like when she comes here. We live in the house DH grew up in, bought it from his parents.. she has nothing, no house, no car, nothing to call her own.. just some clothes.. she stays with whoever will let her.. (warning: immature, petty and materialistic things coming)
so when I know she is coming I will make sure all the 4 wheelers are outside, (even if some are not running at the time), try to make sure all vehicles are shiny and sitting there pretty, in the summer we will try to get out to the pool right before she gets here.. the more stuff that is out there the more pissy she is.. lol
while she drives up in her bfs rusty jeep thing, sounds like a semi is coming.. I giggle.. sometimes its the small things in life.
last summer DH was working on the riding mower, he took it for a test spin without the hood on.. and BM and her bf show up.. I was like holy crap.. how could you do that..no hood seriously!! lol..
LOL!!! This used to be dh
LOL!!! This used to be dh and Wingnut's house and she thought she was going to stay here (and he was going to pay the mortgage) forever since he left and she stayed. It is a beautiful house with an inground pool, finished basement, nice neighborhood. And SD loves to tell her that Soverysad painted the whole house and got new carpets and flooring and that we have a lot more furniture in this house than mommy had when she lived here. I don't really need her to come here, she knows I have it good. She lives in a tiny apartment (though she could afford something nicer if she didn't piss her money away). I don't want her here because she had the cops come with her once claiming "soverysad threatened and intimidated her". I don't need her sh*t. So now she wants to exchange here because she is nosy and I won't allow it.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
we have been threatened with
we have been threatened with the police coming here..but they know her, not to mention we live kinda out of the way so they wouldhave to call state troopers, and they dont have time for that. Now we get threatened with her chrones disease bf beating the crap out of my husband.. lmfao..I would like to see him take one effing step out of his rusty old jeep!
I do like when the skids tell their mom we remodeled the kitchen, living room and 2 of the bedrooms, added rooms on, got a big screen tv (it was a present but BM dont know that), she gets all pissy and calls and will bitch "are you doing this with MY support?" oh why now that you mention it BM, your 50 a wk is changing our standard of living.. duh!
soverysad I am so jealous of
soverysad I am so jealous of your meeting place! My DH has to pick up and drop off SD and its over an hour away!!! BM states that if he wants to see his daughter then its his job to pick her up. We dont have a court order and her car is always on the fritz so he has to spend two hours driving. and it doesn't matter if we are scheduled to have SD or not - BM changes the schedule at the last minute, so it's always up in the air. We are currently trying to change that!
You need to get a court
You need to get a court order, especially if she is having him drive and then changing the schdule. Most courts won't demand one parent do all the driving. Wingnut tried to make DH do all the driving when we lived 45 minutes away and the court said "absolutely not". My parents have grandparent's visitation of my niece and since they're grandparents they have to provide all transportation. My exSIL is such a bitch she requires them to do the exchange at her mother's house which is 20 minutes further than her house and she often just cancels without calling them and they drive for no reason. Some people just thrive on what they perceive as their power.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
my husband owns/works at a
my husband owns/works at a garage, BM will call him being soooo very nice, and throw in there that she has a flat, car isnt running right, radio dont work.. DH will say, hm you should get that checked, or it dont sound good then ask if she is still coming.. thats when BM will get pissed off!! Umm sweetie, he is my husband, and it will be a cold day in hell before he fixes your car.. even though everyone in her family thinks he should, after all she is the mother of his kids..DH is smart though.. he knows at the end of the day he has to come home to me, and I wouldnt be happy.. lol
Being the father of her kids
Being the father of her kids doesn't make him responsible to her!! lol.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!