So here is the long version....my husband filed papers in November to get residential custody of his son. This happened after I asked him to make a decision..either file for custody or give his son to his mother and let her be the residential parent. See, neither one of them are the residential parent because they have shared custody. The kid goes back and forth everyother day. She actually lives 40 minutes away from us and I am expected to drive back and forth to get him and/or pick him up. He is 4.