New here - needing insight - part 2
So if you read my first blog entry, I am following to say that he didn't leave the house. Also he is away for the weekend hunting without the OD because, remember, she said no. It has been bothering me to know that she would be with him right now had she said yes, despite what my objections were. He keeps saying "it doesn't matter - she said no anyway" which I feel misses the point. If she were with him right now, he would have packed/left the house because I would have insisted. He knows this.
He did follow my advice and offered to meet her for dinner to talk. After leaving him hang for almost 12 hours, she finally texted back and agreed. So that happened and he shared some of the things she said and it is sickening. I pointed out the discrepancies in her story, the lies, etc and it doesn't matter because they are "her feelings." Really? Where the hell was this attitude when I was shaing my feelings about taking her with you for the wknd?
Why does this hurt so much? I can look at this logically and would tell anyone else with the same story to run, yet I keep thinking he will suddenly wake up and get it.
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The man who is putting his crazy DD before you ?
The insight is HD is still wrapped up with crazy EX. Who is taking crazy DD off of her meds to support the circus.
The insight is there something wrong wilt DH also. He out there too. You are never going to make sense of any of this because it's makes no sence. They are in there own little world. Going round and round. DH left ,, thank your lucky stars. ,, move ,,,, find a normal person. ,,,,Good luck
Oh, I hear you!
" I pointed out the discrepancies in her story, the lies, etc and it doesn't matter because they are "her feelings." Really? Where the hell was this attitude when I was shaing my feelings about taking her with you for the wknd?"
This bit of your account really struck a chord with me. 6 mths ago, my SD27 sent me a vile email full of insults and character assassination, and DH said it was "her truth" and that I should respond - on pain of our marriage ending if I didn't. In other words, he threatened me with divorce if I didn't see it his/her way. I very nearly did as he asked but then found some self respect and said no, that won't be happening - divorce me if you want. He has admitted since that he was panicking at the thought of losing her, but hey! he didn't seem to mind the thought of losing me!!! This is the thing I have found it very hard to come to terms with. He has been in therapy since, and realises he behaved like a knob-head - but the hurt remains for me.
Your hurt is understandable,
Your hurt is understandable, and completely justified. It is nice that he realizes he was a jerk, but what he did still hangs out there for you. I get it.
I am not sure I can move on from this. He doesn't respect me. It's obvious. It's just a moment in a sea of moments, but may be the one that breaks the camel's back.
"The one that breaks the
"The one that breaks the camels back" yes I experienced this in my first marriage - one tiny thing that made me think - "you know what? I'm done". Pls do what's right for you and your happiness, as I will try to as well.
F---k her feelings. What matters is fact.
Remind her idiot father of that.
Fee fee driven lives are lived by dipshits. Let her suffer in her pit of dipshit. Warn your DH not to get sucked in for a swim in the dipshit pit.
smh
Well said. He is already
Well said. He is already sucked in - pulled in by guilt, I assume. I pointed out that she has never admits if she f*cks up, she has never apologized to anyone, she is always right, she quits jobs because someone has wronged her, etc. Recently he helped her move in with her bf (stupid move imo - she's an adult - let her figure it out) and 2.5 weeks later, she moved out and back home with BM. Nobody questioned her about it or put any rules in place. Unebleiveable. She has since created all kinds of drama, beat up her younger sister, etc. Again, no one says anything to her. I asked my SO why he didn't address any of this and he said that it's not his house, it's BM's so she should address it. Maybe so, but your OD phsyically hurt your YD... that calls for parenting imo. UGH!!!! (I can't do this anymore.......)