Hi, I am pretty new to this so here goes. I have always had great maternal instincts and feel that I am very fair but firm when it comes to my parenting decisions. I have a stepdaughter who is 8 and a stepson who is 14. Both are great and loving but lately it is getting more difficult to be close with them. I don't know if it is something that changed with me or them. To start the 8 year old is an only child at her moms and is incredibly spoiled, I mean spoiled.