So in my last blog I posted that DH had caved, well, he ended up NOT caving.

He took SD14 BACK to BM's on Saturday morning and she didn't come back until Sunday early evening.  AND DH had confirmation that she skipped school on Wednesday (SD12 said she wasn't sick) and DH somehow also confirmed this.

When DH came home on Sunday with SD14, she went straight to her room, DH shortly behind her.  DH then opened her door and began really laying into her.  SD12 and I were playing a game upstairs and couldn't hear what was going on but clearly DH was PO'd and SD14 was playing 'poor me.'  SD12 asked me what was going on, "I've got no idea SD12, deal the cards."

Apparently SD14 hates it at our house, there's nothing to do there, or anywhere where we live, she doesn't care about kids at school and she's 'always in trouble' at our place (even though she has NO rules, NO chores, nothing...it's because, I suspect, she's actually asked to pick up after herself or do certain things - shocker!).  And, her MOM IS A FRIEND and so much easier to talk with and they do things together.  Confirmation for me that I was right.  Disney DH (perhaps slightly shedding this term), Disney BM.

I've been staying a million miles away from this trainwreck and I'm very glad I've disengaged from it.

DH just also finished paying his portion of SD14s middle school trip to Cost Rica (Yes, you read that right!) and he's basically told SD14 that he won't stop her from going to High School near BM and *poof* she's suddenly done with him.  He's realizing this and texted me yesterday, "SD14 is good at milking everything to her advantage."  Cover, "Of course she is.  I'm going make X for dinner tonight."

So SD14, since BM was with her for a trip planning meeting at the school yesterday, decided to go home with BM yet again.  BM said it was because SD14 was still really upset at what happened on Sunday at our house.  DH didn't tell me this and he was home when I arrived - which I thought was great.  We talked a little about how hard it is for split families when the SK has the ability, throught the other parent, to escape the problems at the other house.  And how it's just like BM to allow her to escape problems since it's also BMs way to ignore the issues.

The next few months will be great.  So looking forward to spring break.  I wonder if SD14 will be allowed by BM to continue avoiding DH.  DH is upset and mad and frustrated and I can only listen at this point. 

But the house has been so peaceful and stress-free.  Even SD12 has been more interactive than her normal interactive self.