Door
So I come home and front door is not locked. Again.
A minor appliance that should be unplugged (the shoe dryer) is not, so it's constantly emitting a low warm airflow I think for two days now based on when DP last used it.
Other various things that I can ignore.
I bring up shoe dryer when DP is in mudroom, since he's the one complaining about the electric bill.
Later I mention the front door. Well, it turns out "SD12 doesn't always have her key so I just got in habit of leaving it unlocked."
WTF? Forget disengagement!
"No, the front door needs to be locked DP! How long has this been happening?"
He won't say.
"That will stop. SD12 needs to have her key all the time. Does she have her key any more?"
DP says something about how she doesn't always have it which makes me think no, she's lost it and he and she have conspired to keep this from me.
"I think she should just have to wait on the deck if she gets locked out personally. Does she need another key and do I need to keep an extra one in a hiding space?"
Yes. (He's mad now about my deck comment)
"Ok. I will get the keys (and he will pay for them). But if she loses either one SHE will pay for the replacements. We don't leave doors unlocked for anyone to come in just because SD12 can't keep track of her house key."
We go to bed, he's all pouty.
"Are you mad at me?"
'...I am not mad about the shoe dryer. You are just so picky about the house stuff sometimes...'
"YOU were complaining about the electric bill and you're mad about the front door?!"
I'm just sensitive about some things...
Ok, whatever. No fooling around tonight. Done with that idea...so apparently the house and its contents can be sacrificed because SD12 can't possibly be taught responsibility for her key. F That.
I'll be all over this, no backing off.
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You have a shoe dryer? I
You have a shoe dryer? I didn't even know those existed!
Doors should always be locked, unless you live in 1960s Mayberry.
Having worked at the police
Having worked at the police department for 16 years, I agree with you and this is dangerous. People say it will never happen to them until it does. In our town we have an unsolved murder case of a 15 or 16 year old kid named Sebastian. He was up at 0300 am playing video games in the living room when an unknown intruder came in through the unlocked sliding glass door and Sebastian suprised him and was shot to death. It's been 3 or 4 years now so Its doubtful that it will be solved but yes, the door was unlocked at 3 am and someone came in.
That's the dryer! We bike a
That's the dryer! We bike a lot, and in the rain, it's a great thing! Can take a couple hours if shoes are soaked so if there's more than one pair regularly you may need two dryers. The attachments also allow for drying gloves!!
Would your insurance pay out
Would your insurance pay out should you get burgled if you have left the house unlocked.
The combo locks are super
The combo locks are super cool because you can even program them to text you or email you when the code is used. That would let you know when she has arrived home. Kind of an extra piece of mind or in step life aka "time to worry".
Ask him how he will feel if
Ask him how he will feel if she walks in the door and surprises an intruder who walked into the unlocked house with ease? At best she could be extremely traumatized. At worst she could be raped and/or murdered.
Does he honestly care so little for his daughter's safety and wellbeing?
Do you have an attached
Do you have an attached garage? If you do, get a keypad opener. That way, no one has to worry their silly skid brains about keeping track of that stupid old key because it's sooooooooooooooo hard to keep track of a Dog damn key.
Ask me how I know this method works? The only kid, bio or skid, who has a key to my house is my DD24. Because she's an adult. And owns a home. And understands how to keep track of stuff like keys.
My kids didn't have keys to the house they grew up in until they hit middle school. I kept a spare hidden in a rock thing in the backyard. Never had a problem with them losing their keys. But, then again, they were taught to be responsible. Asshat and his wife never gave them keys to his house. They all knew the garage code. I used to think that it was stupid to not give them keys.
Then I became a custodial stepmother.
yep, front door. All day -
yep, front door.
All day - another problem is I leave the house first, then DP leaves to take SD10 to school, THEN SD12 leaves for school. She's the last out. And even if we have an "extra" key she'll likely not lock the door behind HER.
I'm looking into to door/keypad. I would assume it locks automatically too?
She had a key ring attached to the inside of her school backpack. BM's house key was in there too. There is no reason for her to remove the key ring from her backpack other than she can be a complete dummy, and loses things all the time. Who knows, it could be in her PIT of a room...
We live in a super safe area, but STILL, THINGS HAPPEN!
There are some that will
There are some that will allow you to remotely lock the house if/when our lovely skids forget to lock the door on their way out
People found out about boot
People found out about boot driers and I find out about amazing lock systems.
Love this!
Researching ASAP.
I will take full control of this one. Bwahahahaha...!
It's a safety concern for the
It's a safety concern for the entire household. I love my garage keypad, no keys to lose and you can program a temporary pass code too. The combo locks sound nifty as well.
This is dangerous. If she
This is dangerous. If she doesn't have a key then she can't secure the house when she gets in. So your property is not secure and she is not safe.
If it were me I would point this out to my DH before informing him that if she does not have her key with her then she is no longer permitted to be at home alone, and that he will have to make other arrangements.
UPDATE: DP bought new keys
UPDATE:
DP bought new keys and a key lock box for outside.
I told him if this doesn't work, then HE pays for whatever replacement is needed from then on out.
And what would he do if I come home to someone in the house, or SD12?
He needs to follow up with her, period.
I think he understands the safety thing, BUT talking a couple days ago he brought up in conversation that, "I was just talking about how you wanted to make sure the doors are locked..."
WAIT A DANG MINUTE.
"No, DP, it's not about ME needing the doors locked. It's about protecting not only OUR stuff but the PEOPLE who live here. So you need to re-think this whole thing and figure out it's WE who need to make sure our home is safe."
So he DIDN'T really get it.
And I don't think he grabbed SD12's new key either today, so I'll make sure she gets it and understands the threat of Cover's wrath if anything happens to it.
But I'm working on him.