HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hello All,
I am new to the site and can surely use your help. I have been married for 11 1/2 years. I have two children (my-husbands) and two step-children (my-husbands). One of my step-children lives with us permanently due to a DCFS case, and the other lives with the BM. My husband and I have been having a lot of problems over the years due to the BM & his two other children. This week is Spring Break for my children, as well as my husbands son. Well, my husband never mentioned to me that he was keeping him for the entire week, which I was pretty pissed about, as my husband and I both have to work the entire week; which leaves my 16 yr old & 14 yr old home with his 12 yr old; and this is not the first time that it has happened. I think it was sneaky and disrecpectful on his part for not even discussing this with me. What if I wanted to be free for the week, or what if my kids had plans for the week? He is so upset, that he's staying at his mothers with his son. I just don't understand. Am I wrong for being upset, or should I just let it go?
- cookie29's blog
- Log in or register to post comments
Comments
seems odd --- married 11 1/2
seems odd --- married 11 1/2 years --- this can't be the first time he has done something like this. and if it's typical for him to run to mamma's when his feelings are hurt, then your spring break problem is fixed..... let it go, he'll come around when he is done pouting.
You're right, a couple of
You're right, a couple of months ago he ran to his mother's house, but over a different incident. I am so tired of his BS, that I am thinking about just leaving. My kids and I always get the short end of the stick. He always breaks his back to please his kids BM. Spring Break, why can't I get a week off without my kids too? If that was the case, he should've taken my kids to his mothers house to!
Well, if he wants them to
Well, if he wants them to babysit, maybe he should pay them
Otherwise, they might have plans for the week.
____________________________________________________________________
"If it sounds like I think I am better than you, it's because I do."
My thoughts exactly!! It's
My thoughts exactly!! It's not fair to my kids & me for that matter, as he's working all week. I just feel like he should've asked or discussed his son staying for Spring Break; which he didn't. How did he know my kids didn't have any plans. In my opinion, that was totally disrespectful!
I think it's very
I think it's very disrespectful of him to A) not discuss it with you and B)set this up without discussing it with you, KNOWING he had to work. He just assumed that your kids would watch him? Not cool.
"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".
I hope I read this right.
I hope I read this right. Your and your husbands kids are 16 & 14 and your husband has a 12 year old with someone else.
This may sound ridiculous, but because they are all HIS kids, he feels that he should just be able to depend on his two oldest to watch his younger one (even though the younger one isn't yours). Just a thought.
I think you need to talk to your husband about this. After 11 years, he should know that he needs to consult you before making decisions like that. I would be angry too.
"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus
whoa I totally read it wrong
whoa I totally read it wrong the first time. I thought her kids were kids with a diff man.
____________________________________________________________________
"If it sounds like I think I am better than you, it's because I do."
Yes, you read it correctly.
Yes, you read it correctly. I don't care how he feels about it, he should've asked the kids and me first, before he proceeded to say it was ok. This is my kids Spring Break, and they may have very well had other plans of their own, so he shouldn't have assumed anything. Like my kids said, they don't have any kids, period!! It's the principle behind this entire ordeal!!
THAT logic, I understand
THAT logic, I understand completely.
Your kids do NOT have any kids, and as the oldest of six, this hits a sore spot with me. I had to give up a lot of my childhood to be my parent's babysitter, and my favorite phrase was "I don't have any kids!!"
So it may be me projecting, but I am right here with you on this one!!
____________________________________________________________________
"If it sounds like I think I am better than you, it's because I do."
It just hurts me, becasue
It just hurts me, becasue its not fair to my kids, and its definitely not fair to his son....or maybe the BM just needed a babysitter for the week, either way, I don't care. If your child is going to be there all week, stay home with him all week!