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Picture of SO and the Ex Wife

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My SO's mom still has an 8x10 photo of him and his ex wife (of 6 years) on her wall.  It makes me so very uncomfortable... it isn't even a family photo with the kid - it's just the 2 of them! 

Any advice on how to bring it up - or if I should bring it up at all? 

He even had a gf for 2 years after his divorce.  WHY IN THE WORLD HASN'T THAT PICTURE BEEN TAKEN DOWN!?! 

No more step life for me

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I'm not sure why I keep coming back and reading things on this site. I'm not longer involved in step life. He left on 01/15. I'm not coping very well. I never have been able to handle this type of thing very easily. I am trying, but my thoughts are still always turning to him, and the kids. I thought going to an indoor water park w/my cousin and her kids this weekend would be a good thing to do - keep me busy, out of the house... instead it was terrible. All I did was look at the families around me and miss "mine" - which is no longer mine to begin with.

Gone since Friday

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Well, Friday turned out how I expected. SO sat skids down, told them we were breaking up and that they couldn't stay here anymore. SD10 was very sad, I just held her for a few minutes and we cried together. SS9 doesn't show emotion, he holds everything in - but I know that he was screwed up about it. SO told me he really wasn't talking to anyone at all, just moping around (we spoke on Saturday).

Breaking Point...

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My SO and I have had some really good conversations regarding our future the past week. Unfortunately, we currently do not know if we have a future or not anymore due to those conversations. Long story short, here's what I need to decide:

BM wants kids to go to school in her district now...

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Well, we knew it would happen sooner or later. Last night BM started texting about having the kids go to her school district now instead of ours. We live in different states, each on the border - so it's only like a 20min between the houses. Anyways, the kids stayed at their current school after the divorce, which is our district. I know SO doesn't want this for a few reasons, but the biggest being the shift in power if he allows this to happen.

BM - are you lonely!?!

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Well, BM has a tendency to text my SO a lot more than she needs to. She's very passive aggressive, and he usually just ignores it, but when he says something smart back to her - she instantly becomes defensive "I was just simply asking a question" something around those lines to make him feel guilty. Yet, she's always being a bitch to him, w/o really being a bitch - ya know? Anyways, she's constantly starting crap, always dragging out convos WAY more than she needs to - is she lonely or something!??? She has a husband - GO TALK TO HIM.

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