I feel so much better. STBDH and I are tying the knot on Wednesday. I was feeling very anxious about getting married a few days back. I was freaking out. There were no problems at all. Our relationship is wonderful. He has my back and I have his. OSS is a gem, YSS was and still is acting up but it's noting that couldn't be managed. I have a normal father-son relationship with Dad again- something I was needing. 

Last night after the boys went to bed, STBDH and I decided to get intimate. No big deal. The kids were asleep( or so we thought). We weren't even loud. But I guess Ss9 heard us last night. He called Bm and she went balistic demanding STBDH call her this morning.  

It's bm week with the kids , and yesterday was Ss8 (well now ss9's Birthday), and both fiancé and I called to wish him a happy birthday. When fiancé wished him, he said "thank you"; when I wished him.... noting. Fiancé did say to him that when someone wishes you on your Birthday, you always say thank you because it's respectful, and shows that you care. We both hear bm say "just say it" (she can't whisper to save her live), and he humbles "thanks"