A Zoomed Thanksgiving in cLove-land
Greetings and I hope everyone had a pleasant Thanksgiving Day. We had our very first TG at our home just us (munchkin sd14, me and DH). DH bought a medium size turkey, we did mashed potatoes and I did gravy (from scratch! My mother walked me through it) we had warm artisian rolls, green bean casserole (my first time making that - it was my favorite after the mashed taters) and some canned yams that I spiced up.
While cooking, Dh's family started a zoom call with a few different households. Each "room" had at least 3-4 people attached to it. Feral Forger SD21 showed up, stating "Im by myself today, but coming into town Saturday". This wasnt a surprise to me, as Munchkin SD14 had alerted me to this last week. And Toxic Troll has organized a TG dinner just for FF's arrival Saturday (tomorrow). DH just plans on dropping off Munchkin, hugging FF, getting a photo together and then saying 'goodbye enjoy your visit'. I have been asking him if he plans on taking some time with her, he sais emphatically "no, no desire to do that".
Then, he sais "well maybe she can be in our Christmas Card family photo". Ok, DH so how do you think THAT is supposed to go? We are doing it at home. The home she previously trashed while living here. and subsequently hasnt bothered before to visit and is (in my opinion) not welcome to visit (because, stealing). So how is that supposed to go? I remained calm "sure, no problem, have munchkin ask her".
I put it to Munchkin ysterday. Have not heard anything back. DH tried to backpedal on it too, probably realizing the logistics nightmare if we centered everything around Feral Forger and HER schedule. and just everything involved, including her ignoring me (as she did on the zoom call, and has always done previously).
FF left the meeting to go take "medications", and soon after everyone else left, but it was a good meeting, overall.
And did I mention the food was all so delish???????
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Love it that you had such a
Love it that you had such a delish Thanksgiving Dinner, CLove! How come you never made Green Bean Casserole before now and didn't last year we all had a green bean casserole theme in all our posts? I forgot about that- I think you were the winner this year with the green bean. hahaha! wish I was as quick as you
I blame my mother
She never did green bean casserole...so it was never on my radar, until now lol.
Clove
Your TG sounded wonderful and delicious. Glad the zoom went well!
FF sounds like a pain in the butt. Be glad you keep her at arms length.
arms length not possible now
Well, now FF decides yes she wants to participate. All my plans out the window. Frick.
Frick
Great lucky you. With Covid and all Y'all need to stay apart.
Frick is right
I havent been able to see my friends and family, and now I get to be exposed to this cretin who has had to go get tested 4 times due to "exposure".
Im livid and angry and just want to cry. I guess that "I knew what I signed up for and he will always want her in his life and this is what I get..."
But still. Frick.
This is what I was wondering
This is what I was wondering about while reading your post. Your DH knows that FF has poor hygiene, and that she has a habit of ignoring social distancing guidlines. So why for the love of Pete does he intend to go see her, and how does he propose safely including her in your family Christmas picture? Photoshop is the only safe answer that comes to my mind.
Exjulie
Exactemondo.
I would photoshop that b*tch cross eyed in an elf suit .
Covid is real. Clove tell him you have re thunk it all and y'all need to protect your health.
He was supposed to drop off Munchkin
AT Toxic Trolls apartment for a visit. He was going to just say hi and goodbye.
And then SHE told him and everyone that she was visiting Saturday and it morphed into "well maybe we can get her in the Christmast Picture with Us"...my heart literally sank. Then this morning, we were going forward with just us, and all of a sudden "oh yea she wants to be included". So now we get to gear everything around her schedule of arrival. Not only that I have to push DH into figuring out a new backdrop/location.
The last time she did this, she dropped by the house and used her key to get inside at 3 am. We did a photo shoot that I paid for and hardly any of them came out and the one that did she was cross eyed and stuck her tongue out.
I bought matching masks, And made it clear that it was no longer going to be in our living room with the tree as backdrop and in a chair as previously planned.
I suggested outside front of the house. He nixed it.
I got a tripod for the camera. He can figure out the rest. I just want it over with.
Rather than work round her
Rather than work round her schedule, I'd tell her where to be and give her a time. If she's not there 15 minutes after that time, do it without her. There's no reason why she should get to run the show.
Outside is the only somewhat safe way to do this,
Outside is the only somewhat safe way to do this, and you should insist on that. You know that Feral is a risk as far as COVID is concerned, and your DH needs to respect that. Quit trying to placate his feelings! You are already compromising by even including her, the least he can do is make sure you are comfortable with the location.
Ugh, I would have said, "Um,
Ugh, I would have said, "Um, NO." Don't agree to it if you don't want to do it. You have every reason to not want her in the Christmas card.
Then Im the bad guy
Who doesnt want to include his precious snowflake prodical daughter. I was trying to be nice and do the right thing, because "maybe shes changed" (doubtful) and shes "nicer now" (so what) and shes "reaching out to family now" (could care less)
I bought masks to use in the shoot. I bought a tripod. I made it pretty clear its no longer going to be inside our living room with the tree as background, as far as I am concerned. He can figure out a new backdrop.
Im just so bummed. I didnt want to do it for the past 2 years for a REASON. I feel shes old enough, let her do her own dang card.
So you are going to keep
So you are going to keep denying your own feelings and needs so that he doesn't get upset? That's not healthy. And it just allows him to maintain his delusion that FF is ever going to be a good daughter.