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The punch, that lead to a restraining order, that lead to eviction, or?

CLove's picture

On my drive home, which typically lasts about 45 minutes, I typically call DH or my parents or both. You know, phone calls for catching up quickly or "do we need anything from the store? (beer, veggies, dinner)"

Well, last night on the way home, in conversation with DH, I asked the general questions, he gave the general answers, and I asked "oh, so you are going to so-and-sos house and then dropping off SD15...?" as its her mothers week for visitation.

"Noooooo. Something happened with Feral Forger SD22 and her mom and her mom thinks its better that she stay with us tonight..."

DARN. Well here it goes, again...

He put SD15 on the phone "mom and FF go into an argument over FF's spilled coffee on the flore, and and and then she punched my mom, and and and my mom is um, getting a restraining order and eviction notice, and, um Im staying with you guys tonight and my mom is working graveyard shift at an orphanage for a few days and I dont know, she doesnt think she can drop me off in time for school in the morning..."

It just is what it is!

Well, so of course my mind goes to the following:

1. Was this planned by Toxic Troll to force the Feral Forger out of the apartment?

2. Will this cause DH to have the screws put to him to accept the "child" back into our home? Or will this have the opposite effect of getting rid of her from even the possibility? I asked if the restraining order would cover kiddo (so no chance of FF hacking her way back in).

Either way, it is what it is and Im out of it...

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bananaseedo's picture

Oh no!  I have a sick feeling she will end up on your doorstep Clove....I don't think your DH will turn her on the streets honestly. 

CLove's picture

I mean - Big Burly DH getting "punched" by his daughter sounds less "sad" than poor victimized Toxic Troll who is 5'3" and 220 lbs.

i just remember the screaming and yelling by Feral Forger "I know you want to hit me, you should just hit me!"

UGH. And DH KNOWS that letting her back in would be revisting that.

Plus, well there is not a room for her any longer, so Im probably just spinning my wheels for nothing.

And with a restraining order (she knows how to do these! Recall Tweedle Dum) she can legitimately say "shes YOUR problem now, shes your CHILD"...

ESMOD's picture

A mother of the year that needs a restraining order????

Yeah.. no way.  You broke it you bought it.  

Certainly, you should be under zero obligation to bring someone into your home that has a documented history of violence against family members.. none.  

If your DH wants to help her financially to find a place to stay?  perhaps.. but she made this bed when she raised her fist.

CLove's picture

Toxic Troll has not approached him about taking her in...

He tells me "she knows better"

Yeah like she knew better last april when she suggested I go stay at my parents house while his two CHILDREN bond with them...

Rumplestiltskin's picture

"You broke it you bought it." Lol. These BMs who fight to keep the kids away from their other parent are so often the same ones desperately trying to be rid of them after "parenting" them into little monsters. 

Rumplestiltskin's picture

"You broke it you bought it." Lol. These BMs who fight to keep the kids away from their other parent are so often the same ones desperately trying to be rid of them after "parenting" them into little monsters. 

JRI's picture

I doubt that TT planned it.  Sounds like she felt it was the last straw, actually, I would have done the same.  There is always so much drama, they might make up, who knows.

CLove's picture

And Ive heard "restraining order" and "eviction" a lot and then nothing happens.

Like I said "It is what it is and Im out of it..."

tog redux's picture

Eh, they will be besties again next week. Don't stress over it. It's just how these enmeshed people roll. 
 

Just make sure that DH knows If FF moves in, you move out. She's 22, she can go to a shelter. 

CLove's picture

i swear it seems like every other week Im on here "oh look another fight, and another eviction threat!!!"

tog redux's picture

Yep. SS21 and BM fight like this too, though not as often. And then he will contact DH and talk smack about BM, last time called her a "C-U- Next Tuesday". (DH said - don't call her that, and SS said, it's the most appropriate word for her right now). 
 

And he will want to come over to our house, but it never happens and then it blows over. 
 

 Kind of amusing, but otherwise *yawn*. 

CLove's picture

I know that Im not bored enough to get sucked into the whole 'I wonder what was said".

I was more interested in the fact that Toxic Troll has a new job as a "youth counselor" at a girls orphanage(wtf?) so now she gets to screw up a whole new generation. Her specialty has always been as "behavior specialist" aka babysitting autistic kiddos...

Im just thankful that there is no Feral Forger on my doorstep today. 

Harry's picture

If he wants to keep her. Not in your home.  You must put your foot down,  This will not happen.  DH will not be sleeping in my bed tonight or more 

CLove's picture

That our home not even an option, so Ill have to go with that.

bearcub25's picture

CLove this gives me PTSD with my stb22SS.  I wish I had advice but I know exactly how you are feeling and how hard it is to stop the anxiety that courses through your body over and over.  

Stay strong and firm on her not moving in.