Medium chill. Recognize his butt hurtness, and say nothing else.

If you engage at all, whether your envolvment motivates success or failure, it will end badly for you. Don't set yourself up.

Though no doubt there are rare exceptions, anyone who can fog a mirror can pass the written drivers test if they just read the short, drooler simple, study pamphlet.  PS is just too fucking lazy for her own good.

Let her rot in the stench she is creating for herself. You stay at the flower level in life where things are beautiful and smell nice.  

IMHO of course.

To answer your question to Rags, NO, do not print the booklet. Offer simple regrets and leave this to your DH. I would not even suggested he take her. Disengage, CLove. This is not an issue for an abused SM to deal with. 

Do not print the booklet.

Somehow someway PS will turn it on you. You already said she has an attitude with you for some unknown reason. So please dont. I know you are a kind and caring person, the fixer. No more not your problemo.

I know this is hard for you because your nature is the opposite of PS , DH, and  family. 

Its nice that you showed DH you felt  bad cause you did. From here on go mute.

Blessings lovely lady. You really are too good for these people. Regardless I am here to support you.

IS it vital?? My husband didn't get his lisence until his mid to late 30's. By all counts, other than two failed marriages and a toxic ex/BM-to-his-daughter, he was/is successful. Public transport plus the ease of Uber etc these days should mean that most locations are accessible without driving yourself. It will cost, but so does car ownership.

If she doesn't get a lisence she'll work it out. 

You re-engaged. Drop it like a hot rock. Don't "advise husband" of anything. Don't offer to do one single thing. Do not mention it again. Leave it all to husband and Powersulk. If they bring it up, keep your replies neutral. "Okay." "Mmhmm." "I see." Then change the subject. 

When (if) she passes and gets her DL, "That's nice" is a good enough response. Refrain from getting excited and, above all, DO NOT offer to take her anywhere to celebrate or give a millisecond of your time planning a nice meal or a blank card to offer congratulations. Stick with "That's nice" or "how nice for you".

if you find yourself tempted, pinch yourself. 

Tell yourself "no" when you are tempted to do anything or say anything.  On the plus side, she now wants to get her license whereas in the past, she showed no interest.  Take it from me as SM to 5 who were teenagers at the same time: when they want to do something, they will.

Mind you I 'm in Florida but the test is taken online or at DHSMV before hand and you take your certificate to there with your documentation and give you the restricted license which we call a permit.  But it was a simple road sign test.

I concur with the rest here.  Not your problem.  If you try to help in any way you will get nothing but abuse heaped on you.  Let PS and her parents figure it out.  My daughter was able to download a drivers license manual and passed the test her first try.  If PS wants it bad enough she'll figure it out.  Even if she doesn't, not your problem.  

No worries. I'll say it! 
 

"Told ya so, Powersulk....Take that!"

Just kidding lol

Good thing your husband didn't waste his PTO, gas, and time ... once she's serious and more prepared to pass the test then it would be better to help imo

I'm sure she can feel the consequences. I really hope she overcomes this one on her own. Doing so after obstacles can be empowering if she can push through. 

A DL story from Qatar.  I had to get a Qatar DL when we first moved there. I had an old Saudi DL that was about 40 years old that they did not allow me to use to qualify for my Qatar DL.

I failed the driver's test.  The driving school gave the test. I just took the test without taking a class. Guarnty to fail in that model. Pay for the class, pass the test.  So, I paid for the driving classes and went to two of 12 classes though I paid for all of them.  DW's friend in our highrise was married to a Qatari who was from the royal family of Bahrain.  He made a call, I was to drop his name at the school when I went in for the test.  

The verbal test was.... identification of road signs and road striping.  I was first in line on my second test day.

Several minutes after they were supposed to open, the small roll up gate at the counter opened. A uniformed LEO was sitting there in front of a large poster with countless dozens of road signs and road stripe examples. My test started.

Pointing at a sign or stripe example.

LEO: " Do you know what this is?"

Rags: "Yes"

Pointing at a sign or stripe example.

LEO: " Do you know what this is?"

Rags: "Yes"

Pointing at a sign or stripe example.

LEO: " Do you know what this is?"

Rags: "Yes"

Pointing at a sign or stripe example.

LEO: " Do you know what this is?"

Rags: "Yes"

After a dozen rounds of the same question while pointing at a different sign or stripe picture, and me giving the same one word answer .... "Good. Now go take your driving test.

I never once named a sign or road stripe example. I only answered Yes!

Then I went and did exactly what my instructor had taught me to do. Drive to this pole, turn the wheel 1.5X to the right, move forward. Stop at this pole.  Turn the wheel 1.5X to the L, move forward, etc, etc, etc.....  That was the driving test.  "Good, now go take the road test."

Then came the road test. This one was brand new, I stopped going to driving school too early apparently.

I was the first  to take the road test that day.  I was waiting in the car when a different LEO climbed in the passenger seat.  He said "Go!". I said "Yalla ruggh." Which means "Come on, go".  He gave he a look, laughed, and said "That is tribal pronunciation. Yulluh ru.  Less ghhh on the end."

As instructed, I pulled through the gate, turned Rt on the street, drove 100ft, turned Rt on the next street drove 50ft and he said "Stop there!" pointing me to the side of the road. I stopped and asked "Now what?" He told me "Get out of the car."  I asked if I walked back to the school. He said, "No,get in the bus that has been following you and tell the next person to come."  The road test was at most a few hundred ft of driving on washed out nearly unpaved dirt road with pot holes big enough to swallow the bus that was following me.

And that, is how I passed my Qatar DL test 40 years after I got my first Saudi license.

Do nothing! My SD now 21 did not want to get her permit/license (still doesn't drive either). When I tried to push/motivate/print out the booklet, it ended very badly for me. And from what you write about here, I imagine it would end badly for you also. Say and do nothing. 

I remember it wa a book. Study that book more then school work.   She 17 ,has friends. She up to speed with driver's licenses more then you.  Has to be a topic of conversation at school.   Stay disengage 

My YSD18 put off all things driving for a year, finally BM was the one to push her to do it, one thing I agreed with her on. DH did NOT care if she drove or not and in fact, supported her NOT driving, which yes, I argued with him about but finally just stopped becuase I had no say. He knew better than to ever ask me if they could use my car (hell no!), but he dropped a hint every so often, which I completely ignored. She still, to this day, avoids driving. I think the last time she took the car on her own was in the fall. To go to the library.

Keep your mouth shut, don't mention anything, do not get involved. If you do, you really haven't been paying attention.