Anxious...
Well, anxious because Backstabber/Munchkin (B/M) is back with us tonight. And Dh is having a colonoscopy Friday so Im juggling how to do drop-off and pickup and still get my work done. And well, about those weekend fishing trips...
The way Ive figured things, from what Ive read on here, is that I need to insist on her either going with him (she will want to stay and "study for finals" or stay to "get her schoolwork done", which is ridiculous because - my bad - shes been logging 3-4 hours daily and 8 hours daily on weekends with Kansas City - yes I know...)
OR...de-rum-roll puh-lease...
She gets dropped off at her mothers, because Toxic Troll has stated that she will "be working with B/S on her schoolwork" and I will not be alone with her in the household, nor will I be chased out of my home.
And yes, I did in fact check that darn parent portal.
So, heres to hoping that DH has a clean, erm, you-know-what...
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Really she just needs to be
Really she just needs to be out of the house. She could go to the library, a friend's house, another relative, starbucks, the mall...just as long as she is not your problem for the day.
I would discuss it with your husband but have a plan b up your sleave incase he sneaks out without her.
I will drop her off myself if I have to
And they can deal with it after that.
I vote for drop her off at TT
So you don't harass backstabber while she's 'studying', if she doesn't want to go fishing (which she won't)...
Last Weekend vs This
Last time she was with us over the weekend, she didnt put up ANY fuss abou going fishing. Sunday. But Saturday she wanted to stay home while he went out. He asks her what she wanted to do. I had to discuss with him, and Sunday he TOLD her.
But that was almost 2 weeks ago when her betrayal was fresh.
Option 2
Drop her off at Toxic Troll's
Bye bye!
This gets the point across
I think. Better than just taking her everywhere.
Because TT is "working with her on school work!"
Egads. She got over 25 uncompleted assignments and there are more down the pipeline...so shed better get cracking!
Yeah, Im working on the disengagement I swear!
Tell DH that you don't want
Tell DH that you don't want to be alone in the home with B/S, so he will need to make plans for her while he's fishing. He can drop her off at TT's and pick her up after he's done fishing if she doesn't want to go with him. And he can also explain to her why she's not allowed to be home alone with you anymore.
Doubt he will "confront her" like that
Thats too direct for him.
I put it to him like this:
"ook you can see it one of two ways:
1. I am the "harasser" who is "damaging" your child and you need to protect her from me, or
2. Shes lying and you need to protect me, your wife.
Either way shes not going to be alone in the house with me...
He was quiet. I may have to repeat myself a few times.
He's having the colonoscopy
He's having the colonoscopy Friday. No driving until the next day, but other than that there aren't usually any other restrictions. No reason he and B/M can't be together all day on Saturday and Sunday. He can take her fishing or sit with her and supervise her studying -- whatever he wants as long as they are together.
Yes, togetherness!
Because BONDING.
As DH was texted, "B/M needs to bond with her dadee!!!"
Stuck to your gun's. If M won
Stuck to your gun's. If M won't go fishing because of school work. Then absolutely you should respect BMs wishes that she handle all the school issues and I would make sure to let M know that's why she has to go back to TTs. You are not her mother and it is wrong if you to interfere in Parental decisions.
Right, this - my DH a lot of
Right, this - my DH a lot of fishing too, but SS always went with him. It really was bonding time.