I haven't really spoken to the SS since the incident on Monday night...when SS decided to utter the words "...if that was my kid, I'd slap her" when responding to BD5 typical argument with BS11. Simple argument of kids being kids "put that down, leave me alone, don't touch that...etc." and I corrected BD5 from another room for tone...but the convo had nothing to do with SS and SS decided to add 2 cents as if I wouldn't hear. So as I had already decided to avoid interaction with SS for the day but after that moment I couldn't help myself...I asked SS to repeat and after asking twice SS did so...I said...hmmmm...it'f funny you would feel that way about your child, but tell me what you would do if your child lied and stole all the time?....of course there was the "dear in head lights" look. I made SS leave dinner table, shower and finish his food alone (technically DH had come home at that moment and sat with SS and discussed what occurred...DH gave same statement I gave) sent SS to bed after that. But since then, I've continued this week without uttering more than 2-3 words, no questions, no concerns, nothing...only directing SS to DH when necessary. I realize it's not the most mature action or even rational....but I must say there are less frustrating conversations (of what's really the truth), less stress, less concern, less drama. Mental Peace for the week is being enjoyed!