I thought it might be interesting to blog basically word for word a few of the text sessions we will call them between BM and DH(and sometimes myself). This first one is from the Friday night we picked SD up for the first part of the summer schedule.

Text #1
BM: Per parenting plan the summer schedule is as follows....SD with you June 13th for 2 wks 4 nights. SD back to me on July 2nd, for 2 weeks. SD to you July 17th for 2 weeks 4 nights.SD back to me Aug 5th for 2 weeks. On aug 20 SD regular schedule begins. Unless we both agree on a different time drop off times are always 5pm as usual. This is all per our parenting plan to a T. I welcome any questions or concerns.

Text #2
BM:Since I offered our yearly meeting and you choose not to do it this week, I assume you do not care to communicate with me about SD. However even if you don't want to here are some things that would benefit SD for you to know....1 As agreed apon you will bring SD to xxxx academy in XXXXX for her dance recital. As discussed, her show starts at 2pm. She needs to be on stage at 1:30. So I need her there no later than 1pm so I can get her into her costume and do her hair as her teacher instructed. I have already sent you the address however I will send it again. Are there any questions you have regaurding SDs recital and the instructions I have given you to get her there? Please if you have any questions let me know ASAP. SD is extremely excited for this!

Text#3
BM: 2- SD did well in school this year. I discussed with her teacher what areas would be best for her to continue to work on this summer and some activities we can do to help her succeed. here are some of her suggestions...Have SD write in her journal each day. Normally in journals they write about their day and then draw a picture, its important to encourage details in pictures. Such as, "SD awesome pic, what other details could you add?" Daily is recommended. I have sent her to you with her backpack, inside is her journal. *Remember that is her backpack with items that will help her succeed and items that will help her feel safe and comfortable from home. These are her things so make sure they don't stay in your car.*addition and subtraction flash cards were also recommended by her teacher throughout the summer.* One more thing, each day I have SD read me a story and I read a story to her. Shes great at rading but gets easily frustrated at words if she doesn't know them right away. Its important that you say encouraging words, tell her to sound it out and help when needed. Remind her to tay calm and create and assure her she can figure it out.

Text #4
BM: Address to the dance recital again.

Text #5
BM: 1pm at the latest.

Text #6 and even if you don't want to respond to any of this, it would be very good if you at least confirmed you received this information.

Finally DH gets a chance to respond...

DH: I didn't say I didn't want to talk about SD and her time. I have been tying to get some info of some events before I got back to you. I will be in touch.

Text #7
BM: Well at least you have the schedule to go by, and the information you need to take care of SD during her time with you. Please use good choices and good words around her and take good care of my baby. If anything happens to her contact me ASAP!

DH: Lol...I know how to take care of my daughter but thanks for the laugh.

BM: That's a matter of opinion. If you knew how you would understand that it takes communication. Which is what I am doing now. But you see it as a joke. Scary. ANyway I will be contacting her often and I will see her sunday at 1 for her recital.

BM: You have never taken care of her for an extended pd of time. I raise her, she visits you, theres a diff. Its only natural for me to communicate important info to you. That plus past incidents that have happened to her in your care, of course I am reasonably communicating with you for her well being. That's what parents do, but they put themselves aside to take care of their children. Plain and simple. I love her enough to do anything for her. Plus you don't think of stuff such as the need for communication regaurding which days are drop off days but that's nice to know you think of caring and communicating for her is some kind of joke.

DH:Your way of communicating is what I was laughing at. You r very condescending and talk to me like a stupid child and in case you haven't noticed its not getting you very far. I think communicating about her school, health, and schedule r very important but the other crap you say to me is just ridiculous. I am happy to have all the communication you want when you are being reasonable.

She finally shut up after that last one. Thought I would start with this one since I have blogged a lot about it recently so I wouldn't have to do much explaining. The incidents she is talking about btw are the 2 times I have mentioned before that SD has gotten a little pink on her shoulders about 2-3 years apart. Oh and she sent another one today saying remember to use sunblock...but ill get to that whole thing another time....slam away!!! oh before anyone goes saying why am a I "picking on BM for this" we have 2 other children. One just finished K with flying colors ahead of his class and he has addh and the school thanked us for being such wonderful involved parents...really we aren't stupid parents...lol