Homeschool
Last school year my SS was having some health issues that caused him to miss a lot of school. We pulled him out of school, set up a homeschool so he wouldn't fall behind. He is perfectly healthy now and ready to go back to public school. My husband informed me last night that he wants to continue homeschooled this year. Its not him that has to do this, its me. Homeschool did not go well last year, the kids used as an excuse play video games and sleep until 2 or 3pm. Suddenly my husband thinks this pattern will change, once again I have all of the responsibility and none of the authority. I was very much against doing the homeschool again this year and even told my husband that I did not feel qualified to teach. Having a college education does not mean I can teach. My husband said that the online program Time for Learning does all the teaching and I wouldn't have to actually teach. That is ridiculous! I found the program and it is a great tool, but it is not a substitute for a real teacher. I raised these kids and because I am a stepmother I have no say in anything.
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Yes you have a lot to
Yes you have a lot to say,
SAY! No you are not going to do it. Kid goes to public school like everyone else. Or SO can do the homschooling
As you, find a job, so you are not at home
I oversaw my YSD do 3 online
I oversaw my YSD do 3 online courses that she needed to graduate early. In reality, the majority of her time was spent snapchatting and mooning over some idiot boy. I on the other had gained a ton of weight because I got overstressed hounding her to do her work.
My ysd is a smark kid, she is fairly motivated and can be a hard worker. The classes were easy for her too. However, she just didn't have the mental fortitude to be a self starter.
Ironically, she is now doing college courses online and is doing a LOT better. Perhaps it's because she will get reimbursed for them?... who knows. Now that she has grown up a tad bit, she seems to be better at organizing her time.
You don't have a say in
You don't have a say in whether or not his kid is homeschooled, virtual schooled (two different things) or goes to public school. You DO have a say in whether or not you will be teaching and/or watching the kid during the day. And the answer is no, you won't do either. If the kid is old enough to be home alone, make it very clear that you will not be feeding or checking on him during the day. SS will be responsible for that. DH will be responsible for checking the work and ensuring that SS is actually learning.
If your DH doesn't like it, well then he's SOL on virtual school and homeschool.
I wanted to homeschool my boys, but as it turns out I'll be working and being the main breadwinner. I am working towards DH becoming a SAHD. I want him to do the homeschool, but he doesn't feel confident, just like you, and has told me that. So we've compromised. I'm going to be doing the homeschooling in the 'book' subjects. English, math, science, history, etc. DH is going to be in charge of practical applications and field trips aka the learn-by-doing where DH does feel confident. Since I work IT and can work anytime (and usually have the most work during non-business hours and holidays) it works for our schedule. I also agreed to a purchasing a curriculum DH can follow if I am on a work trip and they can't come along. But even though I'd rather be able to create my own curriculum to match the boys interests, I had to take into account DH's willingness to be a part of it and his confidence level. I think that's the main part your DH is missing. If my DH had said flat NO, I don't feel comfortable doing any part of it, that would have been it. Done.
So just recently your DH told
So just recently your DH told you he isn't in love with you yet now he thinks it's a good idea for you to homeschool his kids. Yeah ok now
Oh gosh - I just read the
Oh gosh - I just read the backstory. Homeschool is the LAST thing you should be worrying about OP! You should be planning your out, not worrying about SS's academics.
There is a major complex
There is a major complex going on here... You have other things to be worried about than this. It's like you're trying to bury yourself under the needs of others to keep from facing just how screwed up this is.
Are we talking about the kid
Are we talking about the kid who choked you, who kicks doors off hinges etc? And your DH wants YOU to home school him and his younger sibling who the kids beats up on too???
It's obvious that whatever we say is not going to sway you one way or another, because you are still there. I have no clue why you would continue to subject yourself to this abuse? :?