I have a 20 year old step daughter who smokes dope and I am sure other things all day everyday. She has a boyfriend who has no job, doesn't attend college and uses Mommy and Daddy as his personal ATM. My SD attends college but this last year she barely passed her classes by the skin of her teeth and is on Financial Aid Probabtion. She has no job and no resposibilty what so ever, thanks to her father. I have tried to empower her and convince her dad to make her get a job but it's a no win for me.