My fiance and I have long been discussing once we get married that we would like to become approved through the local foster system to be able to adopt through them.  We would like to consider a sibling pair if there is greater need for homes for them versus a single child, and we are looking into older children, not babies or toddlers.  With that said, and the wedding 22 days away I find myself wondering if adopting and bringing more children into our lives when we have to deal with the constant drama of the BM of my SD9.  I can't physically give birth to children, and honestly wouldn't wa