All this time I have thought that dear little angel princess sweet pants SD9 was just that, poor little SD with the horrific BM...thinking...."Bumped, you should do your best to save this little girl from the wrath of crazy BM." So, I have been the very best I could be....giving, understanding, loving....everything. But, it all has changed because I now know why this forum actually exists FIRST HAND!
....About 8:30 pm Monday night I was preparing BDaughter and SD snacks before bed....washing some dishes....when all of a sudden....out of complete randomness....in a voice so LOUD the neighbors could hear......SD bellows.........."DADDY, WHO IS THE MOST SPECIAL, IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE?". I dropped the cups in the sink, time stood still, the only noise in the entire world to me was sportscenter FH was engulfed in. FH then responds without hesitation, "You are sweetheart." Then, my head starting spinning on my shoulders.....2 horns popped from beneath my halo on my head, I turned off the water, turned around to drop in on the convo just to hear her BELLOW more...."DADDY, WHO IS THE 2ND MOST SPECIAL, IMPORTANT PERSON IN THE WORLD TO YOU?". FH must have felt the heat of 40 hells burning his flesh when he replied to SD, "Bumped". She then BELLOWS, "WHO IS THIRD...." This little list was very important to her....and as she mentally jotted this down, with a dog crap eating grin on her what use to be sweet little face, I realized at that moment, I JUST GOT PUT IN MY PLACE. Not to mention that FH got tricked into that one....and she got just what she needed....and my BD6 was just made to feel like she did not even exist. SOOOOOOOOOOOO.....I gave both kids their snack and immediatley gave FH the "GO OUTSIDE RIGHT THIS SECOND LOOK"....
Our conversation started by FH saying right off the jump....."THAT WAS WRONG, HUH. I DIDN'T REALIZE WHAT SHE WAS DOING. AFTER I ANSWERED I JUST KNEW" So we talked it over and decided to fix it....together.
But before that could happen.... FH picks SD up from camp the next day....she comes and sits outside with me and my BD6. SD already has this, "I have my important, special person list in my back pocket with my name at the top and I willl pull it out at any moment to put all you people in your place" attitude. SD looks me in the eyes, BELLOWS out to FH, "DADDY, I LOVE YOU", FH replies, "love you too." SD, still looking at me, says "YES" Then, still looking at me, SD asks me and my daughter6, "I WONDER WHO IS THE MOST IMPORTANT, SPECIAL PERSON 2ND ON MY DAD'S LIST?" My daughter looks at SD and says...."WHO CARES!!!! Maybe it's my mom." I could see the hurt in my daughters face, so naturally, I got angry. I replied, "SD, we all know and understand your position in your dad's life, we are fine with that. But I would apppreciate that when you are at MY HOUSE, you put your little list away. I don't want to hear another word about it. i don't make you feel second best, my daughter does not either, I would appreciate you not trying to intentionally make us feel like we are nothing." After the look of sheer, OMG, was wiped off her face, they both went to play. I was burning! FH came over to see what was the matter with me....I went through the whole ordeal....my last comment was clearly stated...."THIS IS MY WORLD, IF YOU WANT TO LIVE IN IT, CORRECT IT." ....and.....he did. He pulled her from playing and said she was equal, we are all equal and if he hears about the list again she will be isolated without TV, games, playing with kids, just like she isolated my daughter and I....

OH YES I DO SMELL THE FRESHNESS OF SM VICTORY.

....I will not have any 9 year old running my life....belittle me....or intentionallly hurt me or my child. I have been nothing but supportive and kind to her....but, if she wants to play evil games, I got some news for her....I have been alive longer, and I WILL WIN!