I have tried and tried again these past two years that I have been with the DH of the ex-wife. We never have disagreement until the ex-wife starts stuff. This last summer we was suppose to have his two girls for a week that ended up being a month and a half. I was perfectly fine with them being here because he never has a regular visiting time with them, itS when ever their mother is tired of them and wants someone else to have them. TRUST ME ITS A LONG STORY NOT ENOUGH SPACE TO PUT IT ALL.
First of all the oldest one loves to play games and the younger one is totally scared of the older one. After we had them for this month and a half the ex-wife calls saying we mistreated them saying that the older one told her I held her down,(didn't tell her why) She had gotten into my sewing kit and was chasing her younger sister and my grand-daughter with a pair of scissors saying she was going to cut them. My grand-daughter came crying and screaming in the room to the point I couldnt make out what she was saying and so I went to see what was going on the younger one filled me in and so yes I did hold her down because she was out of control.
Second not until a few days ago the ex-wife calls again asking the DH if I had told the older one about tampons. I told him yes, she had started her cycle (not her first) and it was all I had on hand her mother didnt send her with supplies, she asked me about them so I told her. Her mother the ex-wife flip a lid said I wasnt allowed to be around her girls ever again and that they wouldnt be coming up this summer. Excuse me don't most girls wear tampons now days. She (ex-wife) said she was too young to know about them. My mouth fell open. I raised three girls and all three of them knew about tampons from day one of their cycles. They never were allowed to sleep in them but wore them during the day and was taught to change them regularly. The kicker is the DH decided that I might want to APOLOGIZE to his ex-wife for telling his daughter age 12 at the time about tampons. Now I flip I told him no why would I apologize for teaching a child when her mother should have done informed her. I asked him if he asked her about the HPV shot which he knew nothing about. I had to educate him about that and that she needed it for her own protection against cervical cancer.
This woman dresses her girls like street walkers (shorts so short their cheeks show) but yet a caring adult try to educate her about something most girls have already heard about by that age and Im treated like poop. Besides all of that she tried calling her mother 5 different times before I talked to her and not once did she answer or call back.
I found out from the DH mom that the ex-wife called her to go pick her up at school when the daughter first started her cycle. Woo am I wrong or is this women got a few lose screws. I could go on and on with the games this ex has played on the DH.
Oh this last call was after the oldest girl got caught stealing headphones so wait is this too going to fall back on me for something I said in the summer. Gees this women needs to grow up and take on some responsibility for these girls.
I know the older one is going to end up getting involved with the wrong crowd because its already happening but yet they are not opening their eyes and seeing. Its because she is crying out for some attention but doing it in the wrong way.
While the girls was here both of them kept saying they didnt want to go home.
Question
Was I wrong for trying to talk to her?
Should I stay out of it?
Would you apologize if the child was asking and the mother wouldnt return calls?