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Disengagement 101???

buick86's picture

Submitted by buick86 on Fri, 03/30/2012 - 6:49pm

Well, I have a ss13 & a sd9. I've kinda figured out how to physically and financially disengage...but I can't seem to figure out how to get to a place where the stuff that goes on with them does not bother me. Currently I am sitting in my dark bedroom trying to shut myself out! Ss is facing expulsion from school, sd falls out with dh on a regular because of her tantrums (did I mention sd is 9 yrs old???), yet they both just got the pleasure of going over to their grandmother's house for I don't know how long (because I'm disengaged)!!! So naturally, my major problem is dh and his lack of commitment to disciplinary actions!!! What am I missing???

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Purplemom's picture

Submitted by Purplemom on Fri, 03/30/2012 - 10:03pm

This^^^^^ I have been having a crappy time with my kids bio dad and his homewreckerskank of a GF and the only thing keeping me sane is reading crews blogs!

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Fri, 03/30/2012 - 7:02pm

Yeah I need to figure out how to disengage from SD15 but she lives with us, I am a SAHM and DH works a million hours. There has to be a way!!

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Submitted by Purplemom on Fri, 03/30/2012 - 10:06pm

The whole point of this site is whining...... It is in the tag line!

Quick poll: How many people vent here so that they don't start stupid arguments or say things they don't mean to the kids and SO's? I know I am one of those!

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Submitted by Doubletakex3 on Fri, 03/30/2012 - 7:26pm

My SM was a pioneer at disengaging, thirty years ago. She acted like I was invisible until I broke one of the house rules and then a written form was tacked to my door stating the terms of the punishment. It worked for her. You might want to give it a try.

P.S. we get along great now.