So SS4 is a nightmare to deal with. He pisses his bed almost twice a week because he didn't want to get out of bed, takes an hour to eat and just sits chewing food into liquid, has purposely crapped his pants because his sister was peeing in the bathroom and he didn't want to wait, breaks everyone's stuff and hides it, lies about EVERYTHING. I can watch him do something and he says he didn't.

He had blood from somewhere and smeared it on my couch. I am a germaphobe, and that kind of crap is my #1 pet peeve. He also dumped half a bottle of water on the same couch on purpose because he didn't want it any more. He smeared shit on the wall and sink in my bathroom, and then toothpaste a different day. 

He whines like it's necessary for him to live. I swear. His dad will say something, like hey, you guys have to take a bath later. He throws himself on the ground, does a high pitch, drawn out whine, and starts crying. Like bawling. For everything. I can't stand it. His mom never tells him no, dad wasn't allowed to punish either kid, he gets away with the whining, peeing, pooping himself, drawing on walls etc cause BM is a lazy dismissive parent. She'd rather be a friend than a mom. 

He had a melt down because he had a literal drop of water on the bottom of his pants after washing his hands before going to bed, and he threw himself on the ground and screamed for 20 min. FH was the one dealing with it, and he was at a loss after trying to talk to him, calm him, pick him up and he just melted back on to the floor...he does this frequently about small things. Like he got a small scrape on his knuckle from my cement wall, and he proceeded to freak the f**k out. It barely broke the skin. No blood, no red mark, but he was full on SCREAM CRYING and throwing himself on the ground, kicking, knocking shit off his bed etc. And I was alone with him. Told him to go to sleep and stop. He had a melt down for a good 20 min because of it. I was in years when FH got home because he was so difficult that day.

This boy has no regard for other. He hits my son and his sister, swings at kids when he was in preschool, sat on maternal grandma's dog, and beat on his head and face with his bare hands till the dog was bleeding. I am horrified at this. Mom shrugs it off, and dad asks why. 

'Cause I didn't like the dog' is all he would say. I told him not to TOUCH my animals. He got caught by mom pinching my dogs cheeks till she yelled and ran off. I freaked out on him, then FH. Picked up FH neices dog by the neck. He threw a shoe at FH friends dog cause he barked. I told him he is not to touch ANY animals when he is with us. FH got mad last night when we discussed it again and said he wouldn't be punishing him for that. I said I wanted nothing to do with any of them when it involved animals then. No zoo, no friend house, nothing.

I highly suspect he has autism, or something else, because he is not normal. My son never acted like that, my neice never did, friends kids... But FH and BM keep brushing it off. He needs to be tested, but BM keeps saying her Dr says to wait till mid kindergarten, cause EVERYONE tested before then will show positive for SOME mental disorder. Excuse me, what? This boy has something not right about him. Everyone is ignoring it. He needs help. 

This boy desperately needs help, we need to find out what's going on so FH can parent and correct him in ways that will actually work.