We'd had difficulty over the last year and half with the family situation. Nothing really major - just little irksome things. Grandskids being brats, skids being petty, lies being told by adults - you know the everyday things stepfamilies get to enjoy.

Last summer, as usual, the three older grandskids were to come for 5 days. SS thought youngest grandskid was too young (3) but promised to bring him. Oldest grandskids are 14, 12 and 6 then.

As usual, Bluebonnet looked up stuff to do, made a daily itinerary, drew up plans to eat (cause these kids don't eat anything but fast food). I sent an e-mail to the Princess to check with her.

East Texas was to pick up the grandskids at noon on Friday and they were to go home the next Thursday. Friday night was to be just a movie and some homemade burgers - just a time to reconnect and enjoy each other.

Saturday we were to go canoing on a river near us, Sunday the beach, etc., etc. Lots of activities and fun stuff.

The Princess replies back to my e-mail with a snippy "We don't spend money on Saturday - please respect our beliefs." Wuht? Huh? Yeppers that was all that was in the e-mail.

So I e-mailed her back and asked what she was talking about. Seems they don't spend money on the Sabbath which now is from Friday at sundown until 3 stars appear in the night sky on Saturday.

Ummmkay! So I sent her another e-mail asking why they were following these religious practices because they are Catholic. I received a flaming e-mail full of hatred, diatribe and bible verses. "I told my Dad in February about this and I don't need to explain this to YOU." WTH?

So I ask East Texas - stupid me! "Oh yeah - she said something about this but I thought they didn't have any money so I blew it off."

I asked him if he read the e-mail - "No it really doesn't have anything to do with me." GAH! So I responded to her via e-mail "Thanks for sharing." }:)

Fast forward a couple of weeks, grandskids picked up, ate burgers, watched movies. Woke up on Saturday (and because of Mom and Dad) East Texas took them fishing while I ran to the bakery to get items for tea. Had tea, watched more movies, made their favorite meat loaf dinner.

Mom and Dad have to talk to them every night before bed. They didn't call on Saturday until 10:00. Granddaughter fell alseep at 9:30 and they MADE her brother WAKE HER UP! WTH? So I dealt with a crying 6 year old for 2 hours before she cried herself to sleep.

Next morning (Sunday) I go into the office to post some pictures of them on Facebook. I find oldest grandskid's Facebook page up and open. It reads "I'm not having any fun." I asked him about it and was told "I miss my family." Yes, we've dealt with untreated separation anxiety for years. Told East Texas and when I tell you he went left and came back around right - well, I'm not exaggerating.

To make a long story short, he told oldest grandskid to pack his bags because he was being taken home in 30 minutes - "No grandkid of mine is gonna stay with me when they aren't having any fun." He called the Princess - chewed her ass up one side and down the other when he found out she already knew. Gave her two hours to pick up her son. The Princess's husband calls and East Texas really chewed his ass up one side and down the other and as a result all 3 children were returned to their parents. During this time the Princess is bawling on the phone to me. Rolls eyes!

Nothing was said when they were dropped off - the Princess was bawling - but no words were exchanged.

On Tuesday, SS calls and asks East Texas "Is all of this because of the e-mail to Bluebonnet?" East Texas blew his top and asks "Why the F do ya'll constantly try to blame everything on BB?" East Texas made it clear to SS that most of this was the Princess and her DH's fault. SS finally agreed.

The Princess and her Dad did not speak for 6 weeks. I was in total shock and found this site, saw posts about disengaging and began to research. During this period I also turned 60 and received a text from the Princess - no call from grandskids, no call from SS, no party - nothing. This after I gave a huge party at my home in June for her 40th. I invited 35 people and cooked a turkey and dressing dinner because that was what she wanted. Oh and this was on a Saturday, too.

Sooo there ya have it - BB is done. Over and out! I'll post more tomorrow about WWIII when I informed East Texas that I was disengaging.