Once again, just when we think we are getting things sorted from the last curve ball BM threw at us there is another one....grrr

So some background. SD7 was livung with her mother and DH paying CS. It was an agreement they came to out of court when SD started school and the original parenting plan had SD living with DH with no CS. We had SD visit us 3 weekends a month because BM can't cope with her for very long on her own. Then my husband was offered a job across the country. He discussed it with BM and even told her that her CS would be going up and that he would pay for trips for SD to visit us. BM was ok with this. So he got the job. Then a week or so after that BM was evicted from her house and attacked by her room mate aparently so SD came to stay with us. BM and DH talked and they agreed verbally that BM could contine to recieve CS for a period of time if she let SD move with us and stay for a minimum of a year with any changes happening over the summer and BM having a more stable situation. Then they were supposed to get all the paperwork sorted and signed at the court. And DH even said that he wouldn't give her any money until the paperwork was all straight. I was impressed he did that. BUT..... life got busy and DH didn't prioritize it and BM was asking for money so he paid her despite paperwork still not being sorted. I kept reminding him and telling him I thought she might turn around having found a new place to live and want to keep SD. And do you know what that is absolutely what happened yesterday when they finally met up to get that paperwork done. Arggghhhhh!

I am currently pleading with DH to go the legal route but he is reluctant because we are due to move out of state in about a month and he thinks a court would force him yo stay and he would loose the job he just started. He is also worrued about the costs. For now he is going to meet wit BM again and try to compromise whatevrr that means.

I just wish BM would stop listening to her family and friends who are all on welfare and don't understand that SD's quality of life will be so much better with us. Thevother thing isvthat after a couple of months with SD 100% full tine, BM will likely be pulling her hair out as she can't cope with her for long periods on her own.

Thanks for reading my extended rant, just needed to get it all out. Wish I had someone here to talk to, but fortunately you guys arr great. sorry for any typos i'm writing on my phone.