so I am still a girlfriend about to be a SM. and the BM doesn't understand she need to respect me. i respect her as her daufhter's mother, but as a person she is stupid and most of the time as a mom shes the same. but she doesn't think i have a say. my Fiance ,the BF, keeps telling her to respect me as part of the kids life. but she thinks my opinions and decisions do not matter. i don't know how to get this through her head. in her house her new husband doesn't want any part of his SD life. But in our house, i do. I have complete say as if i was her mom.