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A message to all my ST friends -- protect yourself!

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Wed, 05/19/2010 - 5:56pm

Hi, everyone:

I just wanted to check in with you all after reading the blog by BMJen "Someone Contacted BM and told her all about ST."

It seems that this person has been identified, and may be exposed/revealed soon. Once this happens, I can't imagine any other course of action than that he/she will have to be permanently removed from the site by Admin.

If this happens, I think there will be a very angry, and clearly unstable, person out there with a vendetta against StepTalk.

In the real world...

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Thu, 04/22/2010 - 10:41am

In the real world, when you go somewhere every day to chat with friends, and someone continually comes up to your group and starts harassing you, there are things you can do.

You and your friends can get up and go somewhere else.
You can call a police officer and ask them to remove the person.
You can get a restraining order.
You can ask the manager of the place where you are to ban the person.
You can escort the person out and lock the door.

In the virtual world, what can you do?

OT: No offense, but...

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Tue, 04/06/2010 - 4:58pm

Okay, I've had a tough day filled with rude people, and I am just gonna say this.

Here is the "translation" into plain, direct English of the following conversation openers. You may want to print them on a 3 x 5 card for the next conversation you have with someone who opens with one of these lines, just so you aren't confused.

When someone says: No offense, but...
What they mean is: You're a pathetic dumba** and I'm perfect.

Very interesting conversation with a BM I know about PAS

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Mon, 04/05/2010 - 5:04pm

I had coffee with a good friend of mine who is a BM last week. She's an awesome person, but our hectic lives mean that we typically only get together to play "catch up" about once a year. She's been divorced for about 13 years, and has two daughters, 17 and 14. Her ex is remarried and is a stepfather to two girls about 8 and 10, who live with them full-time.

My YSD

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Mon, 04/05/2010 - 12:48pm

Last night my younger SD (16) told me, in front of DH, that she feels like even though she loves her mom, I'm more of a mom figure to her than she is. Why? "Because you think about other people before you think of yourself, and because you hold me accountable but you're not mean about it."

I tried really hard not to encourage negative talk about BM, but I did thank her and told her that meant a lot to me. I said that BM's intentions are good, but sometimes the way it comes out isn't the best.

Craziest dream -- but very symbolic!

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Submitted by belleboudeuse on Tue, 03/09/2010 - 6:42pm

Okay, lately I've been having a lot of dreams about... poop.

(I promise, there's a point to this.)

Yes, poop. Dreams where I'm trying to navigate my way through public bathrooms where the toilets are overflowing with giant, steaming piles of poo that are falling out onto the floor, everywhere. The stench is horrifying and it's absolutely disgusting.

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