BM Calls DH last night it seems SD 13 is having a melt down
Well, SD, 13, is all upset because BM was looking through her text messages and facebook post. SD uses BM's phone because she can not be trusted with her own phone. Long story short, About 2 years ago, SD sent naked pictures of herself to a 50 year old guy. If she were my child, she would have never had access to a phone or computer until she was out of my house for her own safety but unfortunately, she has TWO brain dead parents.
It seems SD posted on Facebook a picture of a girl in a pair of shorts, later in the video the shorts were removed to only show her in her panties. The video also shows a guy rubbing the girls va jay jay. Of course, it is through the shorts and panties. The video zooms in on the girls va jay jay and behind. It is clear that this is a "sexual act". SD tags her little boyfriend in the video and he tells her that he will be more than happy to do that to her and SD agrees. So BM and DH agree that the punishment would be no computer/phone. Guess who was on facebook about 20 minutes later.
DH says that after he talked to SD that she stated it was something they were going to do in the future not right now and everyone was over reacting. DH has seen the video. He thinks that her mom is going over board. I could hear SD in the background telling her mom, she is a F'ing C&^% and she need to keep her MF noise out of her business. It took everything I had not to get into my car and drive to BM's house and set SD down and tell her she needed to be more respectful to her Mother. I just can not deal with that. I know she is a teen and they use those words. My kids did but they DIDN'T around me.
I am so glad that I will not be dealing with this much longer. If this child isn't pregnant in the next year, she will be in a detention center. I feel for her but I always feel that it is too late to try to parent her now.
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LOL Oh she hated being
LOL Oh she hated being around me. I saw through her BS...I was a teen once myself. I didn't let her puppy dog, teary eyes blind me from trying to keep her safe.
She is already in therapy has
She is already in therapy has been for about 6 years now. She is seeing shrink and a counselor. I had to walk away from DH yesterday. Being that blind just pissed me off. I realize that I can't care more than her parents,it is hard though. I can't stand to be in the same room with SD but I do worry about her safety.
I think her DH is more
I think her DH is more concerned about "winning" over BM than his own daughter's safety and well-being.
She doesn't need therapy.
She doesn't need therapy. She needs two parents who aren't afraid to put FOOT TO ASS. Her mother should have beat her ass when that crap came out if her mouth.
Of course if mom and dad had started parenting from day one, they wouldn't be dealing with this shit now.
I agree. Her parents are
I agree. Her parents are afraid of her...SD will call social services on them. The child has zero hope.
Oh wow. I would have lost all
Oh wow. I would have lost all respect for the man. Any man who allows his daughter to behave like that is a pedophile by proxy. He cannot see anything wrong in allowing his daughter to behave like that? She actually used her mothers phone to send the video? Her mother needs to lock down her phone and not allow access. And yeah, my opinion of your DH still stands.
He feels that since it
He feels that since it happened at BM's house, BM should deal with it. I agree on minor things that should be true...but this one, I think they both should have been involved. Oh, and I have suggested password protecting the phone but BM says SD is sneaky and will watch BM and learn the password or she guesses. I also said then maybe she shouldn't even have a phone or computer...if she can't protect her child.
Uh, I have a teenager
Uh, I have a teenager daughter, 15, and she has never used that language. She has never called me anything vulvar/profane. Her behavior is completely unacceptable.