I have been a SM for 7 years. I love my 2 SS who live with their BM 80 miles away. The BD gets access 1 weekend every fortnight and for 3 weeks of extended time each year. Or that is how it is supposed to be. My partner is a very loving and hands on dad. He drives 160 miles x 2 every weekend we have them to pick them up and bring them to our home. I am the main breadwinner in our house and have been since BD lost his job 3 years ago.