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Submitted by AshMar654 on Mon, 03/25/2019 - 8:34am

This weekend was good. SS10 got all his stuff back he was happy but we set up a new system where he now earns videogame time for things he does around the house and get time taken away for lying, poor attitude and so on. Week one went well he was motivated to get his stuff done and really started watching what he was saying.

It is so hard to just not yell!

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Fri, 03/22/2019 - 10:14am

So today SS10 and I are heading out and I ask did he get his snack he said yes. Long story short no he didn't I grabbed no big. I realized the snack bowl has not gotten smaller lately. I asked if he still was grabbing his snacks and he said yes and turn out no and he had been lying to me about it lately. Why I am not sure I asked he said he was afraid he would get in trouble if he told me he did not grab his snack. So I said well you have been lying to me lately so no tv and video games tonight. This one the day when his recent punishment was finally getting lifted.

Start to realize something

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Tue, 02/26/2019 - 12:49pm

Well SS10 has an attitude still like, well crap. Anyway SS takes it upon himself to turn the thermostat up again in his bathroom to over 80 yes over 80 because he was in there for 5 minutes and he was cold. Third time now. First time nice talk explained to him not to do. 2nd time he did it was punished a little and explained it costs us money.

Got a hold of the BM!

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Fri, 02/08/2019 - 7:23am

Yup DH got a hold of her last night. Contacted a few people and I found her husbands number on-line. Anyway after a few messages and a person getting a hold of her to tell her to call DH she did.

She agreed to sign the document and was happy SS has a family and mom according to DH. Looks like all this will go smoothly and there will be no issues with me officially adopting my SS. Yay! I am really happy but I think I will be over the moon when all is said and done.

Contacted the BM!

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Thu, 02/07/2019 - 8:50am

Well DH did and he contacted SS10 BM via facebook. The only way we know how. She did not respond not sure she even got the message yet. I do not think so as you can kinda tell. Anyway now it is waiting game.

As we are waiting I am digging and trying to find and address for her on-line but to no luck or I have to pay to find it. We might go that route. DH is going to try to contact a few people he knows that may have her number before we do that.

Kids and Video Games

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Wed, 01/30/2019 - 8:23am

From my previous posts you all have noticed we are struggling with behavior things with SS10.

I am starting to wonder about some stuff because last night we got into his attitude again. Something came up about his friends get to do so much more than he does so I am wondering for all those out there what do you think is appropriate age for certain things.

Fortnite video game:
Destiny Video Game:
Zelda Video Game:
Jaws movie:
Dead Pool 1&2 movie:
Halloween Movies:
All Avenger movies:

Having a day!

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Fri, 01/11/2019 - 11:34am

I am tired this week and just having my fill of things all in all. As I talk to people I work with who are not step-parents or have ever tried to parent a child who was partly raised by g-parents, DH, and aunt sometimes, I realize they have no freaking clue!

Update on Adopting....

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Submitted by AshMar654 on Thu, 11/15/2018 - 9:04am

DH and I met with a different lawyer last night. We liked this one much better and also his fee was way more reasonable. Anyway he said all good things pretty much telling us we have nothing to worry about. We have a good case and all should be ok. He did say it would be easiest if she went ahead and consented and signed the documents.

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