Yeahhh I wouldn't like it either. F that ! That's why they have companies that specialize in that. Annnnndddd they come right out to the house

The BM lost that privilege when they got divorced - this is what we all talk about when we bring up boundaries. Your DH needs to stop helping her and let her move on and get someone else to do it. The BM in our case tried that once and I told DH who was finance at the time - have her call a handyman - your services are no longer available to her - he did and she did - if I had not been there he would have - you need to have a talk with Hubby and set this straight. If you two lived 600 miles apart what would his ex do in that case - she would find someone - your hubby is letting her have the easy was out - this may seem trivial but it isn't - it starts small and then next thing he is shoveling snow, cutting grass, taking the kids more - connections need to be cut except where they involve the children and helping them.

There is no reason to be ecstatic because you think he is so helpful - if you feel you need to display that attitude you really don't it can be okay to be pissed that he is helping her - where you see a person who is committed she sees a schmuck who is running to help her at her time of need - the white knight is shining armor needs to stop being your hubby and she needs to find a new one - this could in the long run could confuse the kids as well because they think that their daddy will come running every time mommy calls and it gives them ideas that they might get back together - she needs to start doing it on her own. My hubby is very very handy around the house can fix anything and I mean anything - I have girlfriends who would kill to have him come over and help them - I tell them - Tough crap ladies get your own handyman or hire one - my is not for loan or sale. It takes time our of our time together and that is not going to happen.

You hit it all right on the head Caregiver1127....Tell him don't do it.

It would be in BM's best interest (and simply because Apples isn't liking it, probably in Mr nice's best interest as well....LOL!) for Mr nice to stop enabling BM, & to let her learn how to use the yellow pages to find a dishwasher repair man.

My DH & I argued probably the majority of our first 4 years together because of crap like this. The last time it happened, BM called DH & specifically requested that he not bring me with him to pick-up because she needed to talk to him. She couldn't talk to him while she had him on the phone??? Anyway, no problem. Apparently, she'd purchased a vehicle (well, her mom purchased it for her) & she wanted DH to "inspect" it to be sure it was safe for their children to ride in. DH points out the obvious first...you can't return a vehicle to a private seller AFTER the deal is done because of the condition. Someone should inspect it (a real mechanic...not the father of your children) BEFORE the purchase is made. Then she says, "I don't trust anyone but you to look it over. I know you love our children & want them to be safe". So, being DH is not a mechanic, should he miss something in his "inspection" he'd likely be blamed for anything that goes wrong. Whatever.

He told me about it when he got home with the kids & I couldn't figure out why the special request for me not to be present. I never did figure that out. That happened on a Friday. Monday, when DH got home from work, there was a summons taped to the door. Guess she needed that one last favor before she took him back to court.