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Why is it sooooo difficult for everyone to get along???

annoyed's picture

Ok I guess since my hubby is over his kids just calling for money so he ignores them and we dont send it, now my SD deletes me off facebook......I guess cause she knows I manage the money and it is more than likely my decision not to send it??? This crap is soooooo frustrating.....Grow up....I did not always get everything I wanted as a child and especially if I treated my father like they do....

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herewegoagain's picture

Because as a child of divorce you aré entitled to ask and get anything you want from your ncp and if not you can blame the smom for stealing dad's money...as a child of an intact family you are entitled to nothing and if you get an attitude you are told "the day YOU pay the bills around here you can complain, otherwise go get a job or stop being a brat...cause you'll get even less". Simple, huh?

annoyed's picture

One time we said no after spending like $3000 for them to visit and taking them to do things....The SD said well you both have 2 paychecks and mommy has one.....oh that did not sit well with my hubby...He wrote a letter to BM after they left telling her that my (his wife) money does not count it is not her responsibility to take care of their children and he pays his child support, insurance, and she gets to claim them both on taxes....Needless to say that is when the ex mother in law stepped in bitching.....Eventually the more they asked the more I said no....I told my hubby you do your part and you can not let the guilt of not seeing them buy their love....once in awhile it comes up to send them something.

buttercookie's picture

I was told the 2 pay check thing too. Why my skids thought MY paycheck should be signed over to them when I have kids of my own I don't know. In our case the BM lead the skids to beleive we were sitting on a gold mind when she got the house and we got the bills. I swear SS19 thinks I wipe with $100 bills and should pay his way with no consideration to the other kids or our own bills and most of it is because BM's mouth

annoyed's picture

I know what you mean it is like they think there is a big money tree out back in the yard. We just bought our first house and I am suprised we have not heard about that one yet??? I like your statement wiping with $100 bills, I will have to remember that one! LOL!

ScornedSM's picture

Because being a SM is rough. It seems we get the blame for everything.

Like me, I was not even in the picture when my husband and his X divorced! Yet the entire family (on both sides) seems to view me as the "other woman", or the "trouble maker" }:)

I've bent over backwards for all of them. I decided to focus solely on my marriage to my husband.

Everything else can fall where it lands.

trysohard's picture

AWwwww yes 'the other woman' crap...BM still calls me this crap and so did MIL till she realized how f***in' nuts BM is. Now I am like a damn angel who saved her son from the devil. I think MIL just realized I wasn't leaving. Blum 3

trysohard's picture

Is SD a teen? sound a lot like something a growing girl would say. She doesn't seem mature...in anger she deletes you from FB. I didn't get crap as well. In fact I had to start working when I was 14. Her BM needs to step in...I mean he pays CS right. What does she want money for in the first place?

annoyed's picture

SD is 12 going to be 13. Yes he pays child support, their insurance, and the BM claims both on her taxes every year. Oh and did I forget to mention they live with BM's mom and dad.....Last month she wanted money for cheerleading $600 and this month $500 for a swimming pool. ( like I stated to my hubby I was a cheerleader and I did fundraisers for my money....

ScornedSM's picture

MIL is a tough cookie here, but ScornedSM is a pistol.

I think she realised that her nosey, badmouthing tactics failed. Now she wants to play "nice"

I trust that about as far as I could pick up the woman and throw her.

It's sad when they all point the finger at the wife/ SM. Quite.