You and Jane are going out for the evening. Jane asks you to help her choose an outfit. She puts on a dress that is pretty, but absolutely HIDEOUS on Jane. “How do I look, Aniki?”

Evil Aniki thinks, “Jane, you look like a stack of tires and that color make you look like you’re about to barf.”

Nice Aniki says, “Jane, that’s a pretty dress but you have other outfits that are much more flattering. What about that blue wrap dress that showcases the ‘girls’ and makes your skin look so warm and creamy?”
(No, I’m NOT hitting on Jane. I’m trying to keep her from making a fashion disaster!)

All of us have been guilty of tearing down, at one time or another. We look for the negative instead of the positive. And it can become an ugly habit. Maybe you don’t say it to someone’s face, but you say it behind her back. We give a discouraging opinion instead of trying to put a positive spin on the negative and make the words less hurtful and more helpful. You can be honest without being mean. You can be positive without being hurtful.

Did you notice that if you frequently let out your Evil side that you often start using it against yourself? NO ONE is meaner to me than I am to myself and I am absolutely BRUTAL. Maybe that’s WHY I try to put a positive spin on the negative and find ways to let my friends know there are better choices. No, I’m not talking about just clothes. Women are powerful creatures. As such, we should empower one another – not tear each other down.

How about some phrases to uplift each other? Things we can use to try and feel better about ourselves?

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~ Eleanor Roosevelt

Don’t let anyone EVER dull your sparkle.

You are more powerful than you know; you are beautiful just as you are. ~ Melissa Etheridge

Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.

I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself. ~ Emma Stone

Make sure your worst enemy is not living between your ears.

Don’t be the girl who fell. Be the girl who got back up. ~ Jenette Stanley

Create your own sunshine.

I’m not afraid of storms, for I’m learning to sail my ship. ~ Louisa May Alcott

I choose to be HAPPY.

I don’t care what you think about me. I don’t think about you at all. ~ Coco Chanel

I am doing this for ME.

The question isn’t who’s going to let me; it’s who is going to stop me. ~ Ayn Rand

If you get tired, learn to rest, NOT TO QUIT.

We can do no great things, only small things with great love. ~ Mother Teresa

It never gets easier; you just get better.

Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror. ~ Byron Katie

I believe in you!!!