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Andyandme's picture

Don't know what came over me but as I sat in my own bed with SO here comes his little princess with her stuffed animal jumps into our bed and starts to cuddle with daddy and daddy is showing her videos on my iPad all I want to do is kick them out nicely.... Can they do this shit somewhere else?! This man is great but I don't know how much longer I can take of this. She's six years old not one so she need to act and get treated like a six year old. Pheeeew just had to let that out:)

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lil_lady's picture

This has absolutely nothing to do with the post but I just have to say I have asked DB to take that cat and put good/no and send that as a standard reply to BM... Love Your Picture!

Andyandme's picture

Yes:/

DaizyDuke's picture

I hate this shit! One time about 3 weeks after SD15 moved in, I went up to my bedroom to get something and SD is laying on DHs side of MY bed watching TV.. WTF? I went out to the garage and asked DH why the fuck she was laying in our bed watching TV? He said he didn't know, that she asked if she could go up there to "do her homework" Um, hello? She has her OWN room, her OWN TV and her OWN bed... get the fuck off of mine! I mean, I don't go in her nasty ass room and plop down on her bed, I'd most certainly get a "what the hell are you doing in here" look from my DH if I did.. so why is it OK for her to do it?

He said he'd talk to her.. not sure if he did or not, but I haven't seen her up there since... of course that's the key... I haven't seen her since.. doesn't mean she hasn't been up there when I'm not home. Gawd it's like she's a dang wild animal, marking her territory.

Andyandme's picture

Tick tock tick tock, princess should be waking up any minute now and guess where she will run to? Yes in bed next to dadda... I need to get ready and leave this room before it happen, sigh:/

Love51's picture

Set the boundaries now the best you can, training starts from day one.
I will never forget the first time SS14 got into bed, FDH went to the bathroom and SS got into bed with me and said "Im gonna take my dad's spot", um, I was so uncomfortable. Since then I had to put my foot down. He is not allowed into the bed, ever. I mad FDH decide if the bed belonged to us or to him and his teenage son. And if the bed didnt belong to us, then I would not use it with him. He made the right decision on that one.
Then I had to put my foot down for SS not to take our pillows and bedding out of the room. I would find our pillows in his bed with slobber and god know what else marks on them.
He isnt allowed in the bedroom with out permission, although just last week when the door was closed he barged right in saying "Hey guys"......
Start now, set the rules, the younger the better.

Bojangles's picture

I think the marital bed is a difficult territorial issue. In an intact family it's often the hub of the home, because the parental unit is the heart of the family. As a young child I often got into bed with my parents in the morning at weekends. As I got older I would sit on the bed with my mum having heart to hearts or watching TV. My 6, 3 and 1 year olds frequently climb into our bed in the morning for a cuddle. My 6 year old likes to do her bedtime reading on my bed with me. It's sad that once their parent's bed is occupied by a new partner it becomes fraught with tension, and there's no real way to keep everyone happy unless the stepparent is comfortable with having their steps in that space, or the children don't feel the need to be there. I definitely remember wanting the bedroom to be a sanctuary during the early years of step parenting.