Step mom to 4 SK (3 SD 14 11 9 SS 7) with a HCBM. I hope someone can relate but i am loosing it. They are little spys for thier mom. They secretly will be on Facetime with her for hours while me and DH are clueless cuz we are busy doing house hold things. Its strange to me. The kids will stand outside of my bedroom door to listen to our private conversations. They record things around the home. The will shush each other if they start to speak about things in moms home. They also take things out my BS (4) bedroom such as underhwear, clothes, socks etc for thiere little brother.

please do not judge me and please do not criticise me to the extreme. I need some advice and help on this situation and opinions on either what I should do or is this going to make my relationship end. 
 

Hi, im new to this whole thing. But I dont have anyone to really talk to about the issues and feelings I have been having. I have been take care of my fiances almost 4 year old in april since she been 6months old. Her bio mom really don't have much to do with her. My sd don't know her as mom. Knows me as mom. I try setting up visits with her sometimes she will come. Other times she will say oh i cant or not even ask about them. She has given my step daughter scabies 3x. We have sole custody of her. Shs has visitions suprived.