Wow...what a turn of events
Just a week ago I posted about how my SD16 had run up a $2800 phone bill and I was going to have to lay down the law if she and her mom were going to stay with me...
In the next couple of days, she got so mad at her mom for holding her accountable she started a physical altercation with her mom, filed a false police report saying we had kicked her out of the house (which is neglect in my state), and then demanded that she go live with her biological father. My wife signed over custody this weekend.
I hate to say it... but I feel 10 years younger and 30 pounds lighter. This kid has made my life hell for 3 years...and her mom's also. She had no regard for me, for her mom, or for herself. Now her mother and I actually have a chance in our relationship.
The sad thing is that there is still a young person that is headed down a bad path. I guess you can't make a person want success, or something better for themselves. I tried so hard to connect, so hard to be an example...all for nothing.
You and your wife did the
You and your wife did the right thing. I hope that you enjoy your time together as a married couple without the stress of step-parenting. I also hope that SD grows up someday and apologizes for the things she has done. She will never know just how much you went through because of her. Luckily, everyone at ST can appreciate what you did for her. So, from one step-parent to another: THANK YOU!
yes, she did the right
yes, she did the right thing. sometimes these kids need to be tossed in order for there to be some sanity.
your sd may never get better. and as u said, u cant make someone want success. dont trouble yourself with guilt. think of it as starting new with your wife, and living life the way it SHOULD be.
congrats!
Hey, wow - I think that is
Hey, wow - I think that is good though. I can't remember if her dad will enforce the rules, but it sounded like her mom completely enabled her and could not bring herself to enforce boundaries - so at least that won't happen in your household for a while-!! Enjoy a little peace and quiet for a change
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Adolf Hitler (1889 - 1945)Well, good for you two I
Well, good for you two I think? My question is what happens when her father takes her in and finds out that his princess is a monster? Will he attempt to send her back out to her mom or try to handle the situation himself? I'm new to the site, so forgive me If this has been discussed previously.
Sorry...just posted on your
Sorry...just posted on your earlier post before I saw this. I had kind of the same experience...once the bubble burst, she walked out and it's been a big relief. On the other hand, my SD hasn't moved in with another parent just yet and may not....so waiting for the other shoe to drop...Guess you probably won't be back here though at this point. Congrats...I think.