Ugh, tell me about it.

I have a gay 18 y/o ss who leaves the wrappers to the giant dildos he buys laying around the living room.

Do you think the Spineless coward I married says anything about it?

Turn off the hot water heater.

Does the family have just one computer? If so then set it up in the living room and get the keystroke device. Make no secret its working and being checked.
OR
Millions of kids use library computers. Just get rid of yours or put it under administrator use only with password so they can't use it except in the living room and when someone is home. Windows programs can be set for administrator use only and password protected - no outside programs or applications are necessary.

As the mother of two teens sons, I can empathize.

However, some questions:

1. Once daddy "sees the light," what will happen?
2. Does daddy care/will he punish them?
3. What outlet would you prefer for SS's sexual interest? They're looking at nudie stuff on the computer. They're not hurting anyone, are they? Do they have smartphones? Ipods with internet access? If so, then they already have access.

Their theme song should include the lyrics "Whack for the daddy-o" from Whiskey In The Jar ,LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Agreed,agreed...

If you don't want them looking at porn on the family computer, simply don't allow them to use the family computer and let them know exactly why. You don't need daddy to do it for them.

Internet and computer are very useful and very common nowadays but sometimes it is used for bad activities and porn is one of it. Kids and teenagers especially boys are watching them secretly. It is a bad habit that might lead to wrong doings.

I have had this same problem with SS now 17. I suspected it was going on for years before I moved in. DH had a terrible time accepting that his son was looking at VERY graphic porn especially videos. We had several arguments about it because he thought I was lying on his son (of course, SS said "no I'm not doing that").

Anyway, I did a lot of research and if you can afford $39.95 year there is a program called NET NANNY which is one of the best on the market. You can control what they have access to. It also logs the day and time of each website and they cannot turn it off without the password. (Even my husband does not know our password). It also has remote access so I can monitor it from my work and it will send me a text message when porn sites are blocked.

If money is tight try the K9 Web protection program I believe it is free.

BTW, our computer was in our living area but SS would get home before us and sometimes stay at home by hisself when we ran errands.

I also did a lot of research on the effects of porn and sent emails to my husband with the info. It is a very controversial subject but the porn now days is not like it was years ago i.e. just still images.

Ugh, yeah teen boys are gross. FDH has a young teen boy. He's had full custody for YEARS. Since he has full custody, honey thinks treating the son like a roommate/little buddy is the way to go. I say this is the WORST way to go. The boy is a little animal. Anyway, the boy wanted his own computer, he got one. Where does honey put this computer? In the room where the son plays video games/watches tv. It's more or less a lounge built solely for the son. My FDH knows the boy watches porn, and has so for some time. He says, aghhhhh, he's a boy, that's what boys do. WTF! This isn't like sneaking a peek at dad's Playboy of yesteryear. This is (as another said) graphic porn. The boy regularly goes into his room and shuts the door. The son spends hours in there.

My FDH once walked into the bathroom (late at night) to find the son spanking it, and of course it embarrassed both of them. I said that was exactly what the boy was doing because the hand lotion would suddenly go from full to empty in days. GROSS.

One day I walk into the bathroom and there was hand lotion all over the wall. It was at the proper height to make that judgement (if you know what I mean).