Superbowl/EOW
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My 6 ft almost 16 year old "man/child" is scheduled to be here Superbowl weekend. Mind you, this is a stupid and extremely selfish rant.
Our Superbowl hosts live 40 miles away. The boy/man lives 50miles away in the other direction. My dh was going to take him home "early" meaning that we'll get to the Superbowl party late.
Why can't he just say, look son. This Saturday I'll come and take you to lunch/movies/driving range but you won't spend the night because I have plans tomorrow. He could spend quality time with him & still not have to go nutz the next day???? Is it me?????
It is probably the bm not being able to miss her free weekend.
I will have to outline the above so my dh even thinks of a solution.
Might he be scared of her?
I'm a true skeptic
And I've always maintained that my DH is afraid of both his EW and his son, so I can quite clearly see your frustration with the SuperBowl situation as I'm certain my DH would do the same thing and expect me to lie on the floor like the doormat that I am and not say anything at all about the change in plans.
I'd be willing to bet that your DH makes changes in plans to accomodate the BM and the man/child, right? So why can't the man/child's BM meet your DH half-way if she doesn't want to sacrifice one day of "her" time off. That way, DH still sees his son, BM still gets free time, and you two make the party on time.
All I'm asking for is some good old honesty served up fresh when I ask for it without the side order of hot tongue and cold shoulder!
Yes, you're right
it is fear. He's afraid she'll badmouth him & the man/child will not want to visit. It would be nice if the BM would meet him halfway. When we first got married (& while we were dating) they would change plans (for her) at the drop of the hat. I stupidly went along because I didn't know any of this. Now all changes must meet with my approval.
God forbid she see her son on a weekend that is not supposed to be hers. What a poor excuse for a mom.
Mine is afraid for basically the same reasons
Although, the BM is already badmouthing my DH to his son and he's threatened to move out of this house on numerous occasions. Being the chicken s*%t he is, my DH started to cater to them a long time ago, while we were dating as a matter of fact. And it continues. When it comes to either of them, he all of a sudden loses his voice and his spine.
At least you are consulted on changes when they occur as I'm never told anything and I don't dare try to question any decisions once they've been made or else I get my head bit off.
My DH's EW will do anything to get out of her visitation when something better comes along, so I'm sure she's damn happy that it's someone else's weekend for SuperBowl to have her son. She won't even entertain the thought of New Year's Eve or 4th of July. It is pathetic.
All I'm asking for is some good old honesty served up fresh when I ask for it without the side order of hot tongue and cold shoulder!
I'd give
him back his ring if he bit my head because of her---AND IN A HEARTBEAT.
This all just sucks.
It's not because I haven't thought about it, Angel
But seriously, I wouldn't give her, that boy, or my DH's parents the satisfaction of knowing they beat me down. Won't happen.