Ok so here is my dilemma....
I am a young stepmother age 26 and have a stepson that will be 18 next week that is living here in my home. He has been here for about a year and let me tell you it has been rough. I have two smaller children of my own and when he came to live with us my son eventually had to give up his room and bed for him. It has been this way for a year now. My son sleeps in a bed with my daughter and I feel like an 8 yr old boy does not need to sleep with his little sister for any longer.
My SS has no plans to move out. He cannot be accepted into the army, says jobcorp is too much work, and thinks that staying gone for 6 out of 7 days of the week is great and that dropping in once a week to "catch up on rest", wash clothes, eat up all the food, and lock himself in the room should be fine with me. Just yesterday I asked him to clean the front bathroom and he replied that he is the only one who has to clean around here, which is crap because he is the only one that doesn't do anything around here. I am so fed up because his 18th bday is around the corner, he works 4 hours a week and was told that if he was planning on being here past 18 he was to get a Full time job.
My H on the other hand, his father is starting to see the light if you will. But the thing that really pisses me off is that I still can't get an apology for yesterdays disrespect. As a matter of fact my SS just came in asking if I would give him a ride to the bustop. Ummm Nooooo try again. I am so frustrated to say the least. I am 26 years old a SM to an almost 18 SS that doesn't give a crap about anyone but himself and thinks that he doesn't need to listen to me because I am only 9 years older than him. My husband backs me up and rips his son when he is around to see his behavior so I guess I am greatful for that BUT I just don't think that he should have it so comfortable here with his own room when he is never here and is making no attempts to move out unless a GF of his can get a Section 8 apt. he believes this is just a flop house to come once a week to eat, sleep, and poop. I am so sick and tired and even though I get support from my H, this house is on eggshells and I am so frustrated with my H and it really is not his fault. WHAT DO I DO?? ANYONE???? ANY ADVICE HELPS!!!!!!