My 15-year-old stepson has untreated ADHD and is impossible to live with. His dad and mother will not get him the therapy and medication he needs so that he can function in a normal way. He is getting worse as time goes by. Because of this, he is entitled, argumentative, greedy, self-centered and just plain unlikable. He has had bouts of violence, threatening to hit my husband and his mother, andhas put holes in the wall at his mother's when he doesn't get his way. When I first met his dad four years ago, he was on medication, and aside from being a little annoying, I could put up with him.

Fast forward to this year: He was in 8th grade because he was held back a year. In addition to making pretty much straight Ds, he was put in in-school suspension twice (once for talking back to the teacher and once for bringing a slingshot to school). In November, he got in a fist fight with one of his friends, which landed him in a five-day suspension at the alternative school. And because he is 15 and his hormones are raging, he is OBSESSED with girls and having a girlfriend. He will find one who pays him a bit of attention, announce it on Instagram that he is in love, stalk her and proclaim his undying love to her, she freaks out and they end up breaking up a week later. Probably because she gets to know who he really is. I don't know what girl in her right mind would want that selfish little prick as a boyfriend, but girls at that age aren't often that smart. 

He has gone through about 15-20 "girlfriends" this year. He can't seem to be without one. I think he starts talking to a girl on Instagram and proclaims her to be his girlfriend after a 15 minute chat. Anyway, his last girlfriend called him a liar and told him to leave her alone, and posted it all over Instagram that he was a liar and a player. Heehee. He deserved that. This was just three weeks ago.

Friday night, the little jerk announces to his dad that he wants to switch schools. This would be the same school my daughter goes to and she was horrified when she heard this. His dad asked why all of a sudden does he feel the need to switch schools. Just last week, we had to buy him cleats because he was going to be on the football team. His dad kept telling him to wait until closer to the time of practice to get the cleats, so he lied, saying practice started last week and he really needed the cleats now!. Turns out, practice doesn't even start until July, and with his awful grades, he probably won't be able to be on the team anyway. And he's really bad at football. The coach never played him in middle school because he was so terrible and didn't really understand the game. He just wanted to say he was on the football team to impress people and get girls.

So here comes the sob story. He says he is being peer pressured (or "pure pressured", as he calls it) into doing drugs. He starts wailing and banging his head, saying he can't take it anymore and just can't be at that school anymore.  He said some of his friends have offered him drugs. Ummm, you chose your friends. And these are the only kids who would even be friends with him in the first place.  His reaction was quite extreme for  someone who doesn't know right from wrong anyway. And drugs are in every school, you nitwit. 

His dad says no, he's not switching schools because of that. After much pouting and wailing and crying and arguing, he finally calms down. I told my husband there's more to this story than the lie we are most likely being told. My husband goes in his room and tells him that if he were to switch schools, he wouldn't know anybody and it would be hard for him to make new friends. Stepson says, oh, but he does know somebody (beside my daughter, who is a grade ahead of him). Why, he knows a girl named Jessie. And he was texting her right at that moment. We ask his brother if 15-year-old stepson has a girlfriend. Why, yes he does. Her name is Jessie and she was at his school, but is transferring to the school he wants to go to. Bingo. The plot thickens.

Yep, he was making up a bunch of stuff about drugs and "pure pressure" just so he could follow this girl to another school. The next day, I guess because he couldn't accept no, he took it a step further, saying that he actually did drugs, and wants to start off fresh in a new school with new people. No, you little shit. We know why you want to switch. It's because your hormones are raging and you don't want this girl out of your sight. If he were to transfer to my daughter's school, that means I would have to take him to school and he would ride the bus home to my house and have to be with my daughter. No freakin' way am I letting that unstable, crazy lunatic stay in the house with my daughter for two hours after school until me or my husband gets home. That makes my skin crawl. 

So I guess he has given up the fight for now, and resigned himself to continue going to his old school. It's a new drama every week with that little jerk. He is exhausting to be around. He is the reason I am on antidepressants. Why won't his parents recognize his need for medication and therapy? I don't think I can handle being around him much longer. My vent is over now. Just had to get that off my chest.