Jealousy
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It seems as though everytime we are planning to go somewhere or when my husband and I talk about something we do or did as a couple or will do as a family, my stepson starts to talk about what my husband and his mom used to do and says do you remember when you and mom went there and remember when we did this with mom as soon as I start talking about all of us together. Sometimes it makes me jealous..should I be? Why is he doing this? Is it her saying this stuff to him when he tells her what we are doing?
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How old is he? If he's a
How old is he? If he's a little older, I would have DH mention to him that its not appropriate to brings a lot of stuff up about his mother in front of you. If he's younger, she is probably feeding it to him because he wouldn't remember. I wouldn't bother saying anything if he's young though, he wouldn't understand it anyways.
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
Be careful about asking kids not to speak about bm
When I was 11, I mentioned to my dad and step-mother something about my mother (can't remember exactly what, it was something trivial like, "my mom took me shopping"). My father used that opportunity to ask me not to mention my mother anymore, as it made my step-mother "uncomfortable".
Later on, when my mother was in an abusive relationship, I would have given anything to be able to confide in my father and step-mother. My mother had depression and was unable to adequately parent me. But because I was asked not to mention her at all, my father heard nothing about the horrors we were living with. This carried forward into my not confiding in my father and step-mother about anything at all, which severely impacted our relationship. The wedge that drove between my step-mother and I continues to this day.
Not mentioning her in front
Not mentioning her in front of SM is what your dad was saying, not don't mention her to me either.
"I child proofed my whole house, but they STILL get in!"
Thank you for replying. I
Thank you for replying. I always ask my stepson about his mother, how she is doing and so forth never nothing negative always positive as that is their mother. He is 15 and we have custody of the boys. But it seems sometimes that we my husband and I try to do something as a family he just changes the situation around as they did this or if we go on a trip he says remember when you and mom went on a trip. Am I supposed to be upset?
Yeah, I hope that's what he meant
but it might not be. Nevertheless, it's how my little 11 year-old brain interpreted it.