I'm sure this has been asked before...
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I know many of you have bio kids. How do you get your kids to listen to you when they see skid not minding? I'm having a hard time getting DD12 to help around the house because she sees SD17 not having to do anything. I can understand why she gets mad because after all why should she have to clean her room when her sisters room is trashed constantly. Trying to get DD12 to help with dishes is the same way. I tried asking if one could put the clean ones away could the other load the dishwasher. Lazy ass went to her room leaving her little sister stuck with it all while no punishment from DH. Now I get nothing but attitude from my daughter.
Any thoughts?
Give your daughter hell. Let
Give your daughter hell. Let her know that you don't give a damn how SD behaves, she is to do what you tell her.
Also instill the importance of being a leader instead of a follower.
Let her know that she has to
Let her know that she has to behave because she is YOUR child.
I also have a SD that is 17
I also have a SD that is 17 and she refuses to help do anything around the house and DH doesn't make her do anything. It come down to the DH making her do what she is told. And I get where you are coming from with you BD and her feeling like she has to do all the work bc your SD doesn't want to do anything. But your D has to realize that you are her mother and she has to do what you tell her to do regardless. Then I'm sure you get the "it's not fair" which in reality it isn't fair that she has to do the work and your SD does nothing but in the long run she will appreciate you more for making her do what she is told. You don't want her to end up behaving like the SD. Tell the DH that it is unacceptable and discuss it with him. He needs to make it clear that she has to do what you ask her to do. Good luck. It is easier said than done.
@mommygoingmad sadly your
@mommygoingmad sadly your right it is easier said then done. Although my daughter understands why I make her do the things around the house because I have flat out said I don't want you growing up into a slob like your sister. My daughter got extremely mad one day and blew up at her sister because she was tired of always flushing the toilet for her. I don't understand why a 17 yr old girl can't manage to flush a toilet but it totally grossed out my daughter. Some days are more challenging than others when you are trying to make a preteen do stuff her sister never had to do.
I also told stepbrat that I will not do her laundry for her anymore either because she so rudely took all her clothes and left all the towels she used in the dryer. I said if you can use them you can fold them also. I've talked to DH about this for almost 12 yrs now and nothing has changed. She still does nothing. So I've just started putting my foot down more. If she doesn't want to help then I don't have to clean or cook for her either. If she cooks I make her wash her dishes and if she doesn't do it and my hubby asks why there is nothing to cook with I tell him your kid cooked and didn't clean her mess. Then he actually makes her do something. I have 8 months until she is 18. 11 months until she graduates. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she will up and move to her moms or with friends knowing my luck she will never move out