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I'm resent my 14 yr. stepson

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Submitted by Jac5598 on Sun, 04/29/2012 - 3:26pm

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Teenage Stepchildren

I'm hoping I can get some much needed advice. My 14 ss comes to visit every other weekend. I have an 8 year old son who lives with us. His father is very active in his life and it is remarkable how we all get along EXCEPT when my ss visits.
He is very disrespectful to his father, my husband. This has driven a huge wedge in my marriage to the point I've contemplated divorce. I know he is a child but I do not want his behavior rubbing off on my child. My husband does not discipline him as he feels guilty the child comes from a broken home. When I try my husband accuses me of being unfair. I'm at my wits end to the point I cringe at the thought of his next visit.
Any suggestions?

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Submitted by witsend71 on Sun, 04/29/2012 - 5:48pm

Plan play dates and sleepovers for BS. Have him go to soccer or something...plan outings like movies where you don't have to deal w SS too much. He will get better in a few years. Help him get a job doing dog walking....lawn care ....etc...that'll keep him busy and he'll have money to spend w his friends and will start saving for his license! You can't teach him manners....that ship has sailed.

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Submitted by Tina had enough on Mon, 05/14/2012 - 11:15am

I hear you I am leaving my step kids not my husband, it only gets worst my husband defends everything they do wrong or right. They curse at me down right nasty when my husbands home they act like things are so great. My 15 year old ss came home called me a retard for putting his cup in the sink, my husband says tell her your sorry. What is he two. Un real. My step daughter 22 is the root of it all I hate her I'm behoned resentment despising her I down right hate her kicked her out my husband don't in force so it just makes everything she says and does ok and for the rest of them. She calls me crazy for enforcing basic house hold functions. I wish you luck I have not even made it to my 3 anniversary . these kids put me threw he'll it's now effecting my health and our 10 year old. Loving your kids don't mean to let them dis respect the ones you love or giving in to every little thing they demand want . To me this isn't love being abused belittle by his kids. I can go on and on with my daily nightmare. Young ones ok but 15,17,18 and 22. They know better and play it till you go. They think if I'm gone daddy will give them a car pony what ever goes threw there head. Alls I know is it rips us apart and I have had enough.