i wrote this post the day after all this crap started and whats to be said is yes being defiant about eating breakfast seems like a small meaningless issue just by reading but really could you tolerate someone whose about as tall as you and physically almost the same size backtalking you when YOUR supposed to be the SP? I feel very challenged inthe house even getting my SD to accept her choices..the meal she made was made completely by herself and all im saying is that if she needed help she should have asked..ive been with this girl for 10 years almost and NOTHING has changed..give you a little run down of what ive experienced with her alrighty..being physically attacked because she would be told she had to wait to be giveing something as simple as a hair tie because i would be busy painting in the kitchen or doing dishes, kicking and punching holes in our rented home because she was told no..calling me a fucker asshole bitch and numerous other names..going after her little brother because he would be trying to stop her from going after me..yeah i took a lot of crap from my SD but my BS and my younger SD were always and always wiill be protected..what i just mentioned is only a small portion of what this kid has put us through emmotionally and as a family omg it takes a toll..im a stay at home mom and feel as though its a prison some days and NO ONE should feel like that..yes we put her away at 11 because of violent aggressive behaviors threats to kill herself threates to slit my throat at night with a knife..so yes excuse the hell out of me i was terrified of her and still do not trust her at aall and probably never will..some people really need to ask about someones issues instead of so obviously siding the the kid..bet if you were here youd be one of those idiots she fools thats always "aww she just need a little attention..saying she wants to slice you up is only a metaphor for the love she longs from you" or some other psycho babble trust me pal ive been told it all and then some..then we ended up getting a group of people that actually saw my SD has issues has probably had them from BM and probably always will have them..shes been called a psociopath but for some reason cant be diagnosed till 18 so till then we have to feel very uncomfortable in our own home lock up dangerous items and put up alarms..my SD gives me the creeps but i will never retract what ive said because its how i feel and this is however a place to vent for us angry annoyed flat out distraught SP of the world so StickAFork if you dont like what ya read then DONT READ IT