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15 yr old ss making me seriously want to leave marriage!

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Submitted by tiedyemama on Sun, 08/17/2014 - 9:22am

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UGH. My husband has custody of his 15 yr oldson.
He is seriously so rude, lazy, disrespectful and my husband doesn't care! He plays xbox all day, has flunked most of his classes, does no chores. when he flunks his classes, his dad says "well, it's his life." When he neglects to do chores or anything, his dad does NOTHING. This kid has never had a consequence for anything! When I (very nicely) try to speak with my husband about ss, he gets defensive and just doesn't want to deal with it!
I truly rejoice on the few days a month when he goes to visit his bm.
Ready to leave! I love my husband, but cannot handle the ss anymore. He has been this way since I met him at 11. Thanks for letting me vent!
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Submitted by tiedyemama on Sun, 08/17/2014 - 11:06am

I wonder as well. I have tried. Talking to him..letting him know that his bs keeps flunking he has no future! Sorry to say- he is just a lazy dad. I have told hubby that if we doesn't leave at 18, I will. Hubby under delusion that at 18 his bs will suddenly be productive and responsible. Ugh!!

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Sun, 08/17/2014 - 11:38am

Your SS is a product of your husband's poor parenting. Yet SS is the one you blame for making you want to leave. :?

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Submitted by tiedyemama on Sun, 08/17/2014 - 11:47am

I do have my own checking/savings acct thank goodness! And don't clean up at ALL after ss anymore. Sorry, I raised 2 respectful bd already. Told dh he can clean up or ss but I'm done! I seriously spent Years trying to be nice, encourage as etc. Now I just don't care! Kid can flunk out and live on street. And... sorry if this is horrible.. but MY home I had even before we were married. At 18 I'm booting him. If dh doesn't like it he can go to

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Submitted by tiedyemama on Sun, 08/17/2014 - 12:12pm

So glad to find people who get it! Hate feeling outnumbered, or like an outsider in my home! I told my dh I married HIM! Didn't sign up to be disrespected and deal with mean rude ss. I don't like ultimatums but it is my sanity at stake. This week I am sitting dh down (again) and laying it down. Will give it 30 days. He doesn't start being a parent and controlling ss and backing me up..they can find their own place..if dh wants to put up with ss, let him. I won't anymore!