My daughter's BM is living with a RSO and courts don't seem to want to do anything
Looking to see if anything else I can do. I have a daughter-12. Her BM ad I never married. Always been in her life with a loose visitation schedule, pay child support every 2 weeks without an order, pay for expenses and insurance. About 4 years ago, went to court to get legal custody order and to set visitation as BM was dictating new terms which were not acceptable. Got a CO-BM decides not to follow. Back to court for contempt. New CO. Try for a year, but BM still decides how to comply by making "interpretations" of what the order meant. A year ago, found out a new man was moved into house before she was divorced. Never told me. Tried finding info on who this is by any means except talking with my daughter. In Feb, finally found out who he was because he showed up on the Wisconsin Registered Sex Offender list with the address of where my daughter lives.
Contact my attorney, file for contempt and also change of custody. Been through one hearing. Contempt was found, sent the issue of RSO and change in placement to GAL. It has almost been the 4 months and heard from Attorney that GAL is struggling with making this guy move out. I made it clear that I would go as far as look for another job if it meant that my daughter live with me to be safe. In newest CO my daughter is not to have unsupervised contact with the RSO. But with BM non compliance for the CO, and her statements that she knows better than the courts to whats in out daughters best interest, I am sure she is not complying. I know there was one time and sent this info to the GAL and she yet she still struggles with making the guy move??!!! Before I found out, I KNOW she was with him alone. He used to pick her up without the BM many times.
In court, BM and her attorney shrug it off as "he was tricked" and it is no big deal. RSO- soliciting a minor or internet for sex.
I just want my daughter to be safe. Physically. And also concerned if her social circle of friends or friends parents find out.
Why are the courts dragging their feet on this issue?? I could maybe see if it was a long time ago or it was a Romeo/Juliet situation, but it was recent and he did go to prison for a couple of years.
Any thoughts?
I will assume you are using
I will assume you are using your wife's account? You profile list you as a stepmother and having no bio-children, but you're here posting in the step/bio father forum and referring to child as your daughter.
Can you go after this guy from a different direction? If he was recently in prison for sexual offenses, I would think he has some parole restrictions. Is he , per his release conditions, able to be around and living with a minor female child? Was his offense against a minor child?
That's what I was
That's what I was thinking.
This man has no connection to this child other than dating her mother. There tends to be a TINY window if the child is biologically yours or your at least married but he could very well be violating laws.
If her friends and social
If her friends and social circle find out, it looks worse on BM than you....and might not be a bad thing, BM might be shamed into ditching the guy whereas you seem to have the sense not to want your daughter around this creep.
Extremely concerning to read,
Extremely concerning to read, a Guardian ad Litem reports their personal struggle to remove a child who is living inside a home with documented person on the sex offender list.
This child IS in jeopardy.
I am sorry but this GAL should be booted off the case. SHE is an idiot.
IF mom insists on keeping his boots under her bed, she can do it while bio dad has custody.
In my state, GALs only make
In my state, GALs only make recommendations to the judge. It would be the judge's call.
Have you tried calling child
Have you tried calling child protective services and expressing your concerns?
You need a better lawyer.
You need a better lawyer.
What about attacking it from
What about attacking it from another direction?
Certainly the RSO has to follow certain limitations and I am guessing not having access to children is one of them. If he has a Parole Officer or some other court overseeing his adherence to his terms of being allowed free in society.. go that angle. You may find he is living there illegally.