Hey everyone. I'm new to this site. I read some blogs on here and sure looks like this is a good place to vent and get some valid feedback.

My situation is as this: I'm a father of a 13 year old daughter who just this past summer moved to FL w/ her mom. A Couple of months after that my current girlfriend of 3 years moved in with me with her two, almost, 5 year old twin boys. They are shared w/ us and their Bio father. We have them every other day and every other weekend.

For some reason I thought since I'd raised one child, two would be more or less the same. BOY was I wrong. Not only can I not fully implement my strategy of raising a kid, since the mom doesn't manage to be firm and countless of times throws empty threats out to them. She does not believe in spankings at all, which is something I never had to do to my daughter. "Time out" to me seems like a good option, but I believe it will only work if it's implemented each and every time they do something "evil" or wrong. The boys never say please or thank you, they run and scream way early in the morning, which is something I have countless of times told them not to do. One of them mentions TV all the time and pretty much gets his way.. TV before dinner, after dinner and in bed before going to bed. If no TV, there is an hysterical panic attack, like the world is going to end. They listen to me, but only because I'm firm and I put them swiftly in time-out. This is of course not without a look from the GF, like I'm Satan, himself.

It's become to the point that I don't even want to be around anymore when they are here. I just remove myself from the situation and go to the garage, which consequently, has become more and more livable for me. On the days they are here I sleep in my daughter’s bedroom, since it's on the other side of the house, this prevents me from hearing all the trampling, yelling, and crying in the morning so I can sleep.

To top all this off the GF brought a cat that pees all over the place, she just bought a puppy (Neapolitan mastiff) this thing is 20 weeks and already 60lbs, cute as hell, but a havoc to take care of. At least the puppy helps w/ the cat chores since he likes to have a 5 course dinner in the cat litter box. I work from home most of the time so this dog is just one more chore I have deal w/ during the day.

We went camping over the weekend and the boys were all over the place, not listening to anything we said. During the weekend I tensed up and just kept to myself till we got home. She asked something along the lines about me loving boys and quite frankly I do not love them.. Which I told her. She said she is DONE, whatever that means... I'm in some ways hoping that means she'll just end this with me..but I'm sure it's another empty threat.

I'm at wits end. Not sure what to do. I love the chick, but not her offspring and thinking of living in this situation while they get older and more obnoxious makes me want to throw myself off a volcano cliff into a red hot sea of lava.