Im new here n i guess im looking for some support. I hope im posting in the correct forum... Ill try to keep it short. I could go on forever. I have a 12 yr old step son. He has terrorized my home for four years now. He manipulates his dad. Whenever he does something wrong his dad takes it out on me. I feel on edge when ss is here. We have him 50/50. My husband constantly acts as though ss passive aggressive antics are my fault and he categorizes me as ss equal instead of the adult and his wife.... his equal. Ss has gone in and out of therapy. It doesnt help. Neither do psycotrpohic meds . According to the psychiatrists he is too young for the meds he needs anyhow. He has been diagnosed with adhd,ocd ,odd and manic depressive. Bc of ss success at manipulatin his dad, i feel like dh just constantly hates me. When ss is gone things are great. In recent past ive seriously felt as though i need to check in at a mental hospital. Ive had therapy on my own and with husband. It really didnt help. Decompressing did help but i dont feel i need a therapist to do that They established im normal and having a normal reaction to my situation. They have even worked with dh on not blowing up at me . For awhile it helped. Its worse again. Im considering asking a dr for anxiety meds so i stopping taking it personallywhen step son misbehaves, which is more than daily, and dh takes it out on me . Has anybody done this? Anybody have a way of working with a spouse to stop taking their kids nonsense out on their spouse? How about dealing with a child who has these issues? Step son has almost gone to jail for fighting and stealing this year. I just want to have a somewhat happy family life.