So I have to vent before I explode. Im married with 3 bio children and one sd 9. I have always loved kids and worked in a dayacare for over 5 years. Kids have always just took to me naturally. Except for my "precious" sd. I have tried everything I know except leaving. My dh is a great dad to our biochild but not so much to my sd. HE has fc of sd for almost 4 years now and its been the worst years of my life. My sd who is only 9 has so many problems. Her biomom is in and out of her life on and off drugs. Poor pitiful sd is what she wants everyone to say to excuse her behavior. Well I tried to be her "mother figure" until it came time to discipline. Then I was mean to her. So I backed off. Her dad took over well that was a shit ahow. He did nothing except excuse everything she does. She has always hated me even before she met me. She use to be weird about her dad. Mini wife syndrome. She use to sit with him ruub his chest and even said in front of a group of our friends she wanted to have babies wwith him when she grew up. Then the constant lying sneaky manipluative behavior started and I'm the only one who sees it. Dh is mostly at work and im here with her. Ive caught her looking up porn, hiding grades, drawing evil killing pictures, notes how she hates me. Ive took her to therapy nothing worked. So I disenguaged. Then my dh couldnt believe I would treat his child this way. Im mentally and emotionally drained. She stole $40 yesterday I found it in her drawer and her dad got mad at me for telling him to parent her. Its like I'm in the damn twlight zone. Send helppppp!!!! Ive tried to disenguage it makes me and dh argue. Idk what to do.