Xmas photo
last year we had all our kids in the photo with Santa. My two and my husbands one. This year we have one together. We have mentioned to DH's side of the family that we are taking them again...what dresses they will wear etc. My mil offered to buy our sons' suit. Great! It is well known that all four children will be in the pic and they will hang it up with pride. When asked, they say they have four grandkids, not just their biological two.
Anyway.
My mother is being a huge brat and saying she just wants HER gkids in the pic. My SD is 4 so it's not like there is bad blood or anything. I think she's being ridiculous. I told her no. She then asked if she could take jusy my three to go. She is well aware that because of all our schedules, on the weekends my girls are home,
sD is here too. I said absolutely not! Not fair.
She's all sulky now. DH said to just let her.
What would u do?
There isn't a time to take my
There isn't a time to take my kids without SD being there.
I don't think it's fair. I think that she needs to grow up and accept the fact that this is my family now and we aren't leaving anyone out. Whenever we go there, sd looks for stuff she gave my mom and is happy when she finds them. She calls her "nana" like my kids do. (She was 2 when she came into our lives)
I know sd would be upset seeing a pic that she's not in.
This isn't very
This isn't very Christmasy-like advice, and it doesn't certainly just apply to step-moms, but being an older SM and having seen more than a thing or two, personally, I'd tell them to all go to hell and do what works for you (and your DH). To have SKs sometimes be included and sometimes not, and letting grandma Kate favor her bios all the while telling SKs you are all one big happy family and that it makes no difference, all that will get you is either a psych ward or an early grave. It never works trying to make everyone happy, except for you, of course. Not uncommon among mothers, but even more common among SMs that she runs around trying to appease everyone and at the end of the day is thought of as little more than the family punching bag.
If you and DH want to treat all and everyone as a family and make no exceptions, go right ahead, and make no apologies. Today Grandma Kate may want just a photo of her bios, but tomorrow she may want to only take her bios on a shopping trip or vacation, etc. What are you going to say or do then?
This is what I would suggest.
This is what I would suggest. Have one individual picture taken of each child with Santa. Then one group shot with all 4. Give all 5 pictures to grandma and she can do what she wants regarding a display.
Stick to your guns. Mommy
Stick to your guns. Mommy needs to grow up.
Why can't your mother just
Why can't your mother just pick the kids up from school one day and take them to get pics taken when the SD is not there?
If she wants the pictures done bad enough she will have to do it at your requests, when SD is not around.
Your mother isn't being a mean person, she would probably love a pick of all the kids too...she just wants one with her Bios.
in a greement with the
in a greement with the others,
SD is only 4 why exclude her? You and DH are the parents of all the kids and what ever you decide is right... GM has no say in the matter