So I have been unsuccesful in getting my partner to talk about our 'blended family' - a conversation we should have had 3 years ago. He's now gone form saying we are not a blended family because the kids are only here for 2 nights EOW. Now it's convenient for him that we are not a family so he can avoid teh discussion. basically about how his kids treat me, our daughter and how he lacks in disciplining them. It worries me because they are 5 and 7 and can only get worse with a bitter, twisted and angry witch of a BM.

So yesterday i realised he doesn't understand that his ex's remote control influence on our relationship because he thinks just like her. We have a 10 month old adorable baby girl who is naturally a very friendly and sociable baby. She's benn going to daycare for 3 weeks now - just 3 days a week and her teachers have taking a particular liking to her. Yesterday when I picked her up her one teacher was going on about how she is getting so much more interactive with giving cuddles and she was describing how she presses her little face against her teacher's face. i thought it was very sweet that she enjoys being around her teachers because it's very tough for me to take her to daycare at this age.

My partner's response, "That's not good at all"
Me: Why?
Him: what you just said about her getting close to her teachers.

Then i had a light bulb moment. He is supportive of BM's influence on the kids against me because he is just as insecure about our daughter showing affection to someone besides her parents. I've told BM that turning the kids against me is not good for the kids visitation, never mind our relationship.

why wouldn't you want your child to at least like the person they spend the day (or in case of skids, weekend) with??? Baffling.